Stop With The Staring!

Hello beautifuls! Today’s post is for all the mamas, daddy’s, anyone who has a baby/ toddler in their lives. I wanted to give a little bit of encouragement to y’all, sometimes we need to hear that we are doing a good job and a great parents.

Reason I want to talk about this topic is because today I was watching my beautiful cousins Instagram stories and she was talking about her trip to Barnes and Nobles with her older son and twins to buy some books. As, I was watching her story I couldn’t help but think about how great of a mom she is. Y’all! She’s got twin boys! I can barely handle my one and only son sometimes, I can’t even imagine trying to care for two toddlers at the same time. So, I decided to message her and tell her what a great mom she is and I kept watching her stories. This is where my mommy nerve got struck.

As, she is talking about the books she bought the boys, she goes into saying that she wasn’t able to grab a book she’s been wanting to read due to the twins getting antsy. When babies and toddlers decide they had enough, they will let you know with a scream or cry that’ll probably make you rethink becoming a parent. Not gonna lie, it’s an awful noise. There’s no controlling it, you can give them anything in the world and it will not calm them down. So, my cousin was explaining that the twins got to that point. This doesn’t mean we are bad moms or bad parents.

We simply can’t control it and when you try to control it, it gets worse. These little humans are difficult little creatures and we don’t need people staring at us like, “get your life and kids together, why are you out in public.” This is what my cousin experienced. No one knows what someone is going through, so your judgey looks don’t really help either. If you think if your nasty look is going to give the mom the power to calm her kid down, you’re an idiot. I just don’t understand why people feel so high and mighty and try to shame a mom like that and make us feel like we are such failures. This is how they made my cousin feel and she felt embarrassed, I didn’t know about this until after I sent her a message saying she was a great mom. I guess it was great timing.

We know the screams and cries are intense and quite annoying. Trust me, we are hearing the same thing. Maybe, instead of giving a dirty look or stare, say “it’ll be okay” give us a nod and smile, if not just don’t look at us at all! Go about your damn day! We have a right to go out and enjoy a day out the house with actual clothes and a new scenery. It takes a lot for us to get the kids ready, get ourselves ready, pack their stuff, put them in the car, it’s a huge process. Whether we are at a restaurant, shopping, or at Barnes and Noble. Matter of a fact the many Barnes and Nobles I’ve been to had a pretty big sections for kids, they even carry toys. I’m sure they knew if kids would be going there to pick out books, it would be noisy.

Either way, just stop being so judge mental and pretending to be so perfect. You can stare at me all you want and I’m going to stare right back and go about my way to find what I came there for. After all, I had to wrestle my toddler to get into clothes, put on his shoes multiple times. I didn’t do all that for nothing. But, not everyone can do it, it’s hard to not give a crap about what other people say but, it comes a time when you have to say enough is enough and just let it be what it is.

I’m very glad I messaged my cousin and I was able to give her some words of encouragement and hopefully made her feel a tad bit better. She is an amazing mother and God gave her these beautiful twins to love and care for and God does not give us anything we can’t handle. Don’t get me wrong I’m not an expert whatsoever but, I feel like we should be encouraging and helping each other instead of making us feel like we can’t care for our kids. Every parent is different and their parenting style is different, so if you have some tips that you may think will make it better, pass it along. If the “perfect” Pattys of the world want to pass down their wisdom on how to control some toddlers, pass it on girly. Haha, I’m kidding keep it to yourself cause no one is perfect.

To all my mamas, you’ve got this! No your toddler is not the only one that wants to run around the store. No, your toddler is not the only one that wanted to take a nap on the floor and got mad when you picked them up. No, you’re baby is not the only one that is hungry and is crying to let you know. Hell, I’m 25 years old and I cry when I’m hungry. You’re not alone in this crazy thing that is called being a parent. Much love to you all!!! Hug those little booger’s extra tight, they won’t stay little for long!

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Okinawa Trip.

Hello Beautifuls! We got back from our family vacation a few days ago. It was an amazing trip, we got to celebrate Jason’s 3rd birthday our there, but we were ready to be home! Mainly because I fly out to Florida Wednesday so, I wanted a few days to rest before I had to tackle the airport with a toddler again, BY MYSELF. The struggle is all worth it though when I see my crazy family and I’ll have round o’clock babysitters so, I’ll get to rest. Lol. Back to our Okinawa trip, we had a blast and just so happy to see our besties again. Jason and Perri were inseparable and troublemakers for sure but, put two toddlers in the same house and what do you expect. Especially only child toddlers.

We went on a few adventures while we were there, we also stayed in and relaxed because well, it’s a vacation. No need to run ourselves ragged. Also, doing things with toddlers is already an adventure it’s self.

On our first adventure in Okinawa was this park called pineapple park. Yes, it’s a park about pineapples. We stumbled upon it looking a for a park with dinosaurs but, we couldn’t find it. Luckily, this place had a little dinosaur exhibit. Jason and Perri are into dinosaurs so it was a hit with the kids and it was a really cool experience for Jason. We thought it would scare him and we would never have to see Jurassic park movie again. We were wrong. It was an interesting park to say the least.

We ate at a cute little place called Calin. We ate taco rice casserole and had some yummy French toast and parfait for dessert. I didn’t get a chance to take a picture, my toddler dug right in.

Following this fun adventure, we did something a little bit more cultured. We visited the Shuri Castle, they even had a little stamp map and at the end of the course of we got all the stamps we got a little souvenir. It was a gorgeous castle, the kids sure did enjoy running around and burning off some energy. The locals were also taking pictures with the kids it was quite funny. They were like little celebrities.

The last big adventure we had was for Jason Birthday! He woke up to balloons and gifts. We went to the second biggest aquarium there is. We saw big sting rays, a whale shark, a big ugly fish, and a dolphin show with the most amazing view. Jason was so intrigued by the sharks, they are a favorite as well. I got the kids matching shirts, they looked soo cute. It was a great day and full of fun memories. We then celebrated at home with some cupcakes my bestie was kind enough to make for him. She’s the best! Jason also bought some souvenirs with the money my parents and brother sent him. He was also sweet enough to pick out a pink dolphin for his best friend Perri. It literally melted my heart how giving and thoughtful my squishy is.

The rest of the days were pretty chill and we went to a place called American village and the views were gorgeous! We ate at this amazing burger place and had ice cream at blue seal. It was all so yummy.

I also had to get some souvenirs from this trip. The most important one is my Starbucks mug, I now have 4 Mugs from different places in Japan. I also picked up a magnet, a pin, & a keychain and picture from the pineapple park.

It was a beautiful island and a great experience. I’m absolutely blessed to have been able to go this trip and make memories with my family and friend. Like, y’all can see I wasn’t lying when I said they were inseparable. They held hands and hugged all the time. It’s was so sweet, my heart just melted every time. Now, I have to prepare for my trip to Florida!

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Family Summer Vacation.

Hello beautifuls! Hopefully y’alls week is going amazing so far. My week is flying by and I’m absolutely okay with that because, we are going on our summer vacation to Okinawa, Japan this Friday. For those thinking why are you so excited if you live in Japan? Well, there a couple of reasons why I’m super stoked. First reason, we get to celebrate my squishy’s third birthday on a beautiful island. There’s so many things we want to do! Second, our closest friends are stationed there and we can’t wait to see them! Third, like I said before we are going to be on a beautiful island, the beaches are gorgeous and there are views for days! It’s pretty much a Japanese version of Hawaii. Finally, the yummy food! Every time my bestie posts something on Instagram my mouth waters.

We will be there for a week and packing for myself is a hassle on it’s own. I have to plan my outfits and have backup outfits just in case I’m not in the mood for the outfit I had planned. So, add two more people, my toddler and hubby, now it’s a party! Well, packing for my squishy isn’t hard, I choose what I want him to wear but, I also have to plan what goes with what and have back ups, you just in case. The hubby I guess isn’t hard either but, at the same it is because, what I would like him to wear, he won’t wear and so I’m making sure I’m packing enough shorts and T-shirt’s that look presentable and will keep him comfy. Making sure we have enough drawers for the week and packing what shoes goes with what time 3. Oh lawd! We leave Friday and I’m starting today. I’m usually packing days in advance but, I figured it’s only a week it won’t be that hectic. I was wrong.

Besides, having clothes all spread out on my floor, I wanted to share some new things I bought for this trip. I’m going to start with some outfits, I’m only going to show the outfits I’m really excited to wear on this trip and I really don’t have the time to share all the outfits.

The first one is this super cute pink and white polka dotted jumpsuit I bought from target. I will be pairing it with my favorite strapped heels also from target.

The second outfit is a cute red and flower dress from target. I thought would be perfect for the island. I’m pairing it with my blush heels as well.

Lastly, is my favorite black high waisted jeans with a Gilmore girls shirt. I bought my a bestie a matching one and since we are planning on hitting up as many coffee shops as possible, it was only fitting to wear a Gilmore girls shirt! Both are from target.

Moving on to these last two items I bought for this trip and for my trip to the states I have coming up this month as well. One being a jewelry travel case, I bought this on amazon for $10 and it’s amazing. It’s thin enough to fit in my carry on or handbag. It has great compartments for necklaces, earrings, & rings. I won’t have to worry about my necklaces getting tangled or loosing an earring, it’s all in one place. To make things better it’s pink!

The last thing is a face mask one of the YouTubers I watch Nicole Guerrero recommended. I usually don’t really get into the hype of the all the products influencers rave about but, I decided to give this one a chance. Like I mentioned before I will also be going to Florida this month and that is a looong flight! So, my skin is going to be going through it with all the recycled air from the plane. This face mask is meant to hydrate the face and make your skin look healthy. Let me tell you, it’s amazing and I just used it twice so far. My skin was hydrated and smooth, I will be putting this on while I’m on that 10 hour flight and possibly every time I get on a plane and I have about 3 layovers. Soooo fun!

Looking forward to sharing our trip with y’all soon!!!

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Saying Goodbye To The Tori Gate.

Hello beautifuls! It’s been a hot minute since I’ve been on here, I miss y’all! How y’all been? How are y’all spending your Memorial Day weekend?

We had a pretty adventurous weekend. We started off by going to the island of Miyajima to see the Tori Gate before it went down to be reconstructed. It will be going under construction this June and will be down for two years. We will be leaving Japan next year. It was the prefect opportunity to go on a little adventure and get a picture and create memories before we depart.

This island is also known as deer island, as there are wild deer everywhere. It’s not advise to feed them or they will stalk you forever. Jason was frightened at first but, then got use to them and wanted to pet them. Besides the deers, it was nice to see the architecture and shrines.(It’s not allowed to take pictures of the shrines). The hubby and squishy got some ice cream and I, of course got some Starbucks. The whole island is so beautiful, it truly is an experience.

Today, Memorial Day, we went over to a friends house and had a cookout. Being with our military family and eating was a great way to spend this day. I’m truly blessed to have my husband home everyday. My heart goes out to all the families that have lost their loved ones fighting for our amazing country. This day is for you, you may be gone but never forgotten.

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What To Get Mom?

Hello Beautifuls! Mother’s Day is this Sunday and even though we should always feel special and make our moms feel special, it’s nice to be extra spoiled and pampered for a day. Speaking of being spoiled, I have some ideas on some gifts that moms would love. Some are on my wishlist but, my wishlist can get a bit pricey so, I’ll be sharing some more affordable gifts.

So let’s start with my wishlist. They range from a mug to luxury. First on the list is a mug from Etsy. It’s super cute and funny. As, a mother some of us don’t really get much sleep. Mainly because we stay up late getting stuff cleaned and getting some time to yourself. Even though, we stay up late it doesn’t mean we get to sleep in so, we have to wake up when we have a toddler in your face at 6am. So, we may have some dark circles and bags under our eyes and this mug is super relatable.

Isn’t it the cutest? You can find it here The Bags Under My Eyes Are Louis Vuitton .

Following item on my wishlist is from Melsy Illustrations, it’s the cutest drawing of a mother and son. You can customize the color of skin and hair. It’s so cute and perfect for a mother of a boy. She also has a mom and daughter drawing too.

It’s just so adorable and a great piece to add to any work space or home. Click here to find it. Melsy Illustration .

Every mom needs a little something special. The last thing on my wish list is this simple Tiffany’s ring. The way it can be made special is Tiffany & Co. can engrave anything you want on the inside. It could be the kids initials or birthday, basically anything you want.

Get this simple yet iconic ring at Tiffany & Co. Ring. .

Moving onto some ideas that aren’t on my wishlist but, are still nice to get.

A simple little painting from the kids would be a great gift for the grandmas in their lives. Even if it’s just a hand print it will be cherished.

One can always appreciate a beautiful bouquet of flowers. A GOOD breakfast in bed. A nice dinner with the family. These last one not one penny needs to be spent and they are letting mom sleep in, and when I say sleep in , I mean take the kids out of the house. I don’t know about other moms but, I know even if I want to sleep in I’m always listening on what’s going on in the living room. So, take the kids out of the house. Maybe do the dishes. Put in a load of laundry and put it away. These little things would mean the world to a mom. Am I right, mamas?

Well, I hope all you mamas have a great Mother’s Day!

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Happy Birthday To My Love!

Hello beautifuls!!! Today’s post is dedicated to my ride or die, my best friend, the love of my life; My Husband! We have been celebrating his birthday all weekend long leading up to his birthday today.

He turned 25 and now he’s as old as me, until I turn 26 in a few months and feel like an old fart all over again. We started of the celebration with going to buy his big gift. I’ve never seen him so gunho about anything our entire marriage. This man is super hard to shop for, he deserves the world but, rather have a sticker type man. So, this year he wanted a kayak and I was so excited I finally had a great gift to get him. Friday night I sorta tricked him into coming to the store with me to get his gift. I’m a tiny person there was no way I would be able to carry and put a kayak on the car. He had no idea he was getting a kayak that day. Let’s just say he was like a little kid that saw a mountain of presents under the tree on Christmas morning. His excitement made me sooo happy.

After, dropping of the kayak, we had to go get him and Jason some life vest but, not any kind of vest, a fisherman vest. Haha. That’s right, my man now is a fisherman or he wants to be. What kind of wife would I be to kill a mans dreams. Hahaha.

Moving onto Saturday morning, I took him to get a pedicure, we use to get them all the time in the states and it has been a while for him. He now says he’s sliding in his boots. After, the pedi, we headed to this restaurant my nail lady recommended. It was a 50s diner and had pretty good American food. Headed to the restaurant and it was the cutest place I’ve been in Japan, restaurant wise. They Marilyn Monroe and Elvis everywhere, a jukebox, and all things 50s. Besides, the amazing 50s aesthetics, the food was delicious. I didn’t even take a picture of how good it was. But, I did take a picture of our yummy dessert. When we were done with our parfait, we headed out to the backyard where they had some tables, a swing, and a pond with koi fish. It was so beautiful and we are definitely going back.

On Sunday we took the kayak for a swim in the lakes of Japan. I stayed on short, due my fear of open waters but, that’s a story for a different time. Both my babies were ready for some kayak fun. They had in their life vests and were off. I thought my toddler would be overboard in a matter of seconds but surprisingly he actually stayed calm and enjoyed the ride. I may have lost my husband for the majority of the weekend but, it’s totally worth it. The happiness on his face was everything.

Monday was a work day so, we didn’t do much. We were pretty tired from our exciting weekend.

Tuesday was his birthday, so after work Jason gave him presents, he got daddy some under armor running shorts and a champion sweatshirt. We then went to dinner at chili’s and stuffed our faces and Jason stole his birthday dessert.

It was an amazing birthday filled with fun and some spoiling. Is there any other way to celebrate a birthday?

Happy Birthday My Love!

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Happy Easter!

Hello Beautifuls! Easter is this Sunday, and making my baby boy his Easter basket is so much fun to make. Honestly, I may go a little bit over board but, oh well it is what it is. I am that extra. Not only do I go overboard but , so do my parents. They go overboard for everything, now you know where I get it from. Haha.

I’ll be showing you what I got my little squishy for Easter. As well, as what my parents got him.

He already has a personalized Easter basket. So, for his basket I got him a personalized 8 in. egg. Inside I put some goodies, I got him and my friends daughter custom matching shirts for our vacation this summer to Okinawa. Followed by a truck and a Reese’s bunny. Besides, the big egg, I’ll be putting some eggs filled with gummy jelly beans, some chocolates, two big bubble bath bombs, and $5 in one dollar bills. We will also be doing our own little Easter egg hunt.

Moving onto what my parents got him. So, first off the stuff can’t even fit in his other baskets, that’s how much stuff they send him. They kept it Disney Cars theme, his favorite. They sent him a bunch of the mini racers, a racetrack, Cars eggs, Cars shirt, cool light up lightening McQueen sneakers, and finally some candy. I told y’all they go big.

I also send a little Easter box to my bestie & her daughter. I got them both personalized eggs. In my friends egg I put a bunch in KitKats, some press on nails, and glittery earrings that match the hair bow I put in her daughters egg. For my sweet Perri I sent her some cute sandals and inside her egg was some KitKats, her matching bow, and custom shirt.

Do y’all go big or small for Easter? As y’all can see we go big. Haha

I hope you all have a blessed Easter!

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