Stop With The Staring!

Hello beautifuls! Today’s post is for all the mamas, daddy’s, anyone who has a baby/ toddler in their lives. I wanted to give a little bit of encouragement to y’all, sometimes we need to hear that we are doing a good job and a great parents.

Reason I want to talk about this topic is because today I was watching my beautiful cousins Instagram stories and she was talking about her trip to Barnes and Nobles with her older son and twins to buy some books. As, I was watching her story I couldn’t help but think about how great of a mom she is. Y’all! She’s got twin boys! I can barely handle my one and only son sometimes, I can’t even imagine trying to care for two toddlers at the same time. So, I decided to message her and tell her what a great mom she is and I kept watching her stories. This is where my mommy nerve got struck.

As, she is talking about the books she bought the boys, she goes into saying that she wasn’t able to grab a book she’s been wanting to read due to the twins getting antsy. When babies and toddlers decide they had enough, they will let you know with a scream or cry that’ll probably make you rethink becoming a parent. Not gonna lie, it’s an awful noise. There’s no controlling it, you can give them anything in the world and it will not calm them down. So, my cousin was explaining that the twins got to that point. This doesn’t mean we are bad moms or bad parents.

We simply can’t control it and when you try to control it, it gets worse. These little humans are difficult little creatures and we don’t need people staring at us like, “get your life and kids together, why are you out in public.” This is what my cousin experienced. No one knows what someone is going through, so your judgey looks don’t really help either. If you think if your nasty look is going to give the mom the power to calm her kid down, you’re an idiot. I just don’t understand why people feel so high and mighty and try to shame a mom like that and make us feel like we are such failures. This is how they made my cousin feel and she felt embarrassed, I didn’t know about this until after I sent her a message saying she was a great mom. I guess it was great timing.

We know the screams and cries are intense and quite annoying. Trust me, we are hearing the same thing. Maybe, instead of giving a dirty look or stare, say “it’ll be okay” give us a nod and smile, if not just don’t look at us at all! Go about your damn day! We have a right to go out and enjoy a day out the house with actual clothes and a new scenery. It takes a lot for us to get the kids ready, get ourselves ready, pack their stuff, put them in the car, it’s a huge process. Whether we are at a restaurant, shopping, or at Barnes and Noble. Matter of a fact the many Barnes and Nobles I’ve been to had a pretty big sections for kids, they even carry toys. I’m sure they knew if kids would be going there to pick out books, it would be noisy.

Either way, just stop being so judge mental and pretending to be so perfect. You can stare at me all you want and I’m going to stare right back and go about my way to find what I came there for. After all, I had to wrestle my toddler to get into clothes, put on his shoes multiple times. I didn’t do all that for nothing. But, not everyone can do it, it’s hard to not give a crap about what other people say but, it comes a time when you have to say enough is enough and just let it be what it is.

I’m very glad I messaged my cousin and I was able to give her some words of encouragement and hopefully made her feel a tad bit better. She is an amazing mother and God gave her these beautiful twins to love and care for and God does not give us anything we can’t handle. Don’t get me wrong I’m not an expert whatsoever but, I feel like we should be encouraging and helping each other instead of making us feel like we can’t care for our kids. Every parent is different and their parenting style is different, so if you have some tips that you may think will make it better, pass it along. If the “perfect” Pattys of the world want to pass down their wisdom on how to control some toddlers, pass it on girly. Haha, I’m kidding keep it to yourself cause no one is perfect.

To all my mamas, you’ve got this! No your toddler is not the only one that wants to run around the store. No, your toddler is not the only one that wanted to take a nap on the floor and got mad when you picked them up. No, you’re baby is not the only one that is hungry and is crying to let you know. Hell, I’m 25 years old and I cry when I’m hungry. You’re not alone in this crazy thing that is called being a parent. Much love to you all!!! Hug those little booger’s extra tight, they won’t stay little for long!

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Goals Update.

Hello Beautifuls! Hope y’all are having a great New Year so far and are crushing y’alls goals! This girl right here is on a roll! Some goals have been achieved, some are in progress, and some are going to start on fresh start February. Haha. If you go back to my last post, you’ll see all of the goals I’ve set up for myself this year.

The first goal that I’m absolutely proud of is the start of potty training my sweet baby boy… well, I guess he’s not a baby anymore. Queue the sad violin and ugly crying. Today, marked a whole week of potty training! He’s is doing so good, we have way more successful trips to the potty and very little accidents, only two a day to be exact. I had a few tricks to help this go as smoothly as possible. I made him a potty chart and I help him draw a star for every good potty break, I bribed him with candy stickers, gave him a lot of juice, and finally I would let him watch his favorite movie or cartoons. Let me tell y’all it’s has been going ALOT better than I thought it would’ve been. Even though, it’s all going smooth, it has to be the most exhausting thing I’ve ever done. We aren’t fully trained yet but, so far so good and that makes me one happy and proud mommy.

The next goal that I have started and I’m pretty obsessed with is my cleaning schedule and meal planner. This is a new goal and it’s all thanks to my bestie Sarah and the new series on Netflix tidying up with Marie Kondo. Now, I didn’t go quite drastic on my cleaning like on the show but, it sure did put a pep in my step to get my life together. I did get rid a lot of our clothes and got rid of things I no longer used or wanted and to my surprise my hubby was on board with this new way of living. The schedule has really been a life changer, I always felt like I was cleaning and nothing seemed to stay cleaned and it really discouraged me and just pissed me off. But, now it’s so much easier to keep up with everything and not feel overwhelmed. I highly recommend doing one if you’re feeling helpless.

The third to last goal I made was to read more books. To be completely honest, I’m not a big reader, I just want to lead my toddler by example to read more books. He already likes for me to read to him but, I want him to love it and hopefully he will be able to read himself soon. Also, I want to work on myself and not just Netflix and chill all the time.

My last goal is on the materialistic side. Thanks to my adorable baby brothers, who aren’t such babies anymore, they gave me the LV Confidental bracelet. I’m obsessed, it’s so simple but, yet so pretty.

So that’s all of the goals that I’ve achieved so far and it’s only January. I told myself that this is the year I accomplish all the goals I’ve set out for myself and so far I’m kicking this years butt.

Also, don’t get discouraged if you haven’t met the goals just yet, something is always going to try and get in your way. Just start them whenever, don’t wait til next year to start something. You can start next month, week or even the next day. It is up to you to take control of your life and make the changes you want.

What are some of the goals you set for this year?

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Transitioning My Toddler to His Big Boy Bed.

Hello beautifuls! I hope y’all are doing amazing this week. I’m doing amazing and super excited for my birthday coming up in a couple days, but I’m also bugging out that I’m turning 25, in 5 more years I’ll be 30! WOW! But, let’s move on to another little person who keeps growing and breaking my heart, my squishy, my toddler Jason. We recently transitioned him from his crib, since he would escape from every morning. This was a sign that he was ready for a big boy bed. A huge thanks to grandma and grandpa for buying him his toddler bed, y’all are the best.

I had so much fun making his room a big boy room. He really didn’t have a lot of decor for his nursery since we moved to Japan. So, I went into diy mode and made some of his room decor. Thanks to the yen store here in Japan I was able to make his decor for cheap. It was easy to pick what his room was going to be since he is obsessed with cars and loves the movies from Disney Cars. I first started with these box displays, I painted them to look like roads, I have been collecting mini cars and I thought it would be a perfect way to display them in his room. I think they are the cutest things ever!

The next thing I made was a sign with his name on it. Now, this took a while to make, but it turned out sooo awesome! This took three 8×11 canvas boards, a printer to print out the letters, mod podge, and a lot of patience. I was able to find free fonts to create the font of the movie Cars. I then started to trace out every square to make a race car flag. I painted the square black and white, once it was dry I mod podged the letters onto the canvas. This helps it lay the letters flat and seem like they are painted on. To make the 95’s that are on each side of his name sign, I used smaller canvas and painted them red, printed the number 95 and mod podged it on the canvases. I felt like this really brought the name sign together.

I was able to find these hooks at the yen store and painted it red, I thought it would be great to hang his backpack and jackets. This was the one thing that wasn’t as time consuming. But, it looks great.

I found the carpet at a store called nafco, it’s so soft and fluffy, I have the exact same one in my beauty room in pink. They are high quality carpets and were super affordable, can y’all believe they were only $40! I had to snatch them up. His little table I bought on amazon for $35 and the little bar stools I bought at daiso for $4 each. The bed set I bought from target on sale. And lastly the wall art I got on Etsy, it was $3 for the digital copy of the cars. I then printed them out on photo paper.

Jason loves his new bed and room. I think it turned out amazing! What do y’all think?

Happy Mother’s Day.

Happy Mother’s Day beautiful! I hope you all have an amazing day and are spoiled on this special day. May you get beautiful flowers, an extra 30 minutes of sleep, or maybe not changing some diapers for one day. I don’t know about you but, not changing a few diapers is a great gift to me. As, my Mother’s Day comes to end here in Japan, most of you mommy’s are now getting up to breakfast in bed (I’m hoping) or sleeping in. But, I was giving the best Mother’s Day gift ever! No it wasn’t anything materialistic, we didn’t even go out to a nice brunch or dinner. We stayed home, I got to sleep in a bit, got my house cleaned (to my standards), got a break from wrestling a toddler in order to change a diaper, I got a back massage without complaining and whining, and finally got to eat some yummy food from the comfort of my own home in my sweats. It was a great Mother’s Day for this mommy. I am truly blessed to have such a great husband and such sweet babies. My baby boy makes me feel like the luckiest mommy in the world, if I knew I was going to get lucky with such a great baby the second time I would get on it in a heartbeat, but for now I’m happy with my sweet squishy bear and fur baby. Jason seriously makes being a mommy a piece of cake, with the occasional meltdown but, hey he’s a toddler. He is the most amazing little human ever, we had a bit of struggle the first few weeks after we was born, but after that he was smooth sailing. He is such a great sleeper since he was an infant, he didn’t turn into a little butthole when he was teething. I thought for sure he was going to struggle when transitioning from sleeping with me to his crib at nine months, but no, he was a pro, since the first night we put him in his crib he has not want to sleep with us. Which makes me a little sad, cause I just want to cuddle him at night, he’s just Mr. Independent now. Then, came taking away the binky and bottle and transition to a sippy cup a little after he turned one. I thought for sure that was going to be tough, and yet again he was unphased. We really got lucky with this little guy and not to mention with our fluffikins Lucas. He’s the best dog we could have ever asked for. Like I said he makes being a mommy a piece of cake. I’m truly blessed to be a mom and a fur mom.

We Survived Our First Week.

AE37358D-8014-485E-B64F-065CC7E1BF96Hello Beautifuls! Today is a little update from my last post about starting school, a new job, and Jason going to daycare for the first time. Well, we survived it. I am still a student, I didn’t drop out. HAHA. I have been really good about not procrastinating and waiting until last-minute. But, it’s only been a week. This week hasn’t been a walk in the park either. Since starting school, a new job, and Jason going to daycare, I’ve started to wake up early to wake up early. Like, 6am early! I haven’t woken up this early since high school, so its been tough.

This whole week I’ve been waking up early to work out ( I’ll do a post about my workout routine in the future.) I’m able to clean up the house a bit and have a little time to work on school work before my squishy bear wakes up. But, Oh My Gosh! Those were some tough days. I usually never take a nap, but my eyes were barely staying opened. I eventually got use to it. Waking up early is a great thing. Friday was definitely a crazy day. I was running errands before dropping Jason off at daycare and going into works. And all the momma’s know how hard it is to run errands with a toddler. It makes it double the work, getting a toddler in and out of the car is a sport itself. By 10 am I have so much, I was in dire need of Starbucks. Thank God it was Friday!

My new job is awesome, I love it. It feels so good to be working again. I’m so blessed to always have great co-workers and managers. At every job I’ve had, the managers and co-workers are amazing and friendly. Not many people can say that. I honestly have never had a problem at any of my jobs. I’m so happy to be working with such amazing people and organization.

Jason is loving daycareso far. The first day was the hardest for me. Literally, not even 2.5 seconds went by that I dropped him off and I busted out into tears. I started questioning my parenting, “Was I a bad mom for leaving my baby?”, “Will he be okay?” I was a mess. But, he had a great time. The ladies there love him and say he’s a good boy, which makes me really happy and gives me peace of mind.

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Styling My Toddler.

Hello Beautiful! I hope you all are having an amazing week so far. Today I want to talk about my addiction to buying baby clothes. HAHA! It really is an addiction. I can’t stop buying my squishy bear clothes. I love dressing him up in cute clothes, whether it be preppy to sporty. Not to toot my own horn, but he can rock everything he wears. Every time I dress him, I get all giddy and start laughing because he looks so flipping adorable and looks like a little man. I thought having a boy was going to be boring to dress up, granted girls do have a lot more stuff to work with, but I find is so much fun shopping and picking outfits for my son. Since the day he was born I would always dress him up in cute outfits. Except the first two weeks we both stayed in pajamas all day, but I mean I was exhausted and it was my first time being a mommy. But, once I got the hang of it and I was able to peel myself off the bed, it was time to get cute. (For the both of us, I was looking rough). He has always had little baby shoes, I know some people think is stupid to buy baby shoes, I don’t care. Shoes made his whole outfit. Granted he has more shoes than me and my husband, but I can’t help it. I seriously get so much joy making my toddler look stylish. My favorite stores when was a baby was Jack & Janie, Gymboree, Carters, & OshGoshBgosh. His clothes now are mainly from Old Navy and Baby Gap, there is no beating their prices on cute and stylish clothes. I never pay full price for his clothes. They are always having amazing sales. I get so much for so little. I love those places. It also helps that his grandma constantly send him cute clothes. He honestly has more clothes and shoes than us. Who else has so much fun dressing their babies? Are there other stores you like shopping from?

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I mean come on! Look how handsome he is. 83D59385-4A2A-48C0-A1F9-6750ACA0AF0C

Look how he can rock a kimono. Love it. I am obsessed with my child. What parent isn’t?

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Sunday Funday

Hello Beautifuls! I hope you all are having an amazing weekend so far. We had a lazy Saturday, but we had a pretty fun Sunday. We took Jason bowling for the first time, needless to say, he beat us. He sure is a natural. (who wouldn’t be with bumpers, right?) Our little professional bowler was still full of energy, so we took him to the park for a few. He loves swinging and going up and down the slides. It kills me how much he is growing and is capable of doing all these things on his own. I remember when I would have to hold him to go down the slides and swings. Where did my baby go? Stay little forever!

We came home and took our fur baby on a walk and watch the sunset. I swear Japan is so beautiful. I do not go on long walks, but this view was so amazing, it sure encouraged me to start going on long walks. Lucas sure didn’t mind the long walk. As I walked, I couldn’t believe how blessed I was. Above all, it was a great and fun day. What do you all do for fun? Well it is not like we will be able to do it for another two years. Maybe we can find something close to it here in Japan. Let me know down below! XOXO.

 

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