Stop With The Staring!

Hello beautifuls! Today’s post is for all the mamas, daddy’s, anyone who has a baby/ toddler in their lives. I wanted to give a little bit of encouragement to y’all, sometimes we need to hear that we are doing a good job and a great parents.

Reason I want to talk about this topic is because today I was watching my beautiful cousins Instagram stories and she was talking about her trip to Barnes and Nobles with her older son and twins to buy some books. As, I was watching her story I couldn’t help but think about how great of a mom she is. Y’all! She’s got twin boys! I can barely handle my one and only son sometimes, I can’t even imagine trying to care for two toddlers at the same time. So, I decided to message her and tell her what a great mom she is and I kept watching her stories. This is where my mommy nerve got struck.

As, she is talking about the books she bought the boys, she goes into saying that she wasn’t able to grab a book she’s been wanting to read due to the twins getting antsy. When babies and toddlers decide they had enough, they will let you know with a scream or cry that’ll probably make you rethink becoming a parent. Not gonna lie, it’s an awful noise. There’s no controlling it, you can give them anything in the world and it will not calm them down. So, my cousin was explaining that the twins got to that point. This doesn’t mean we are bad moms or bad parents.

We simply can’t control it and when you try to control it, it gets worse. These little humans are difficult little creatures and we don’t need people staring at us like, “get your life and kids together, why are you out in public.” This is what my cousin experienced. No one knows what someone is going through, so your judgey looks don’t really help either. If you think if your nasty look is going to give the mom the power to calm her kid down, you’re an idiot. I just don’t understand why people feel so high and mighty and try to shame a mom like that and make us feel like we are such failures. This is how they made my cousin feel and she felt embarrassed, I didn’t know about this until after I sent her a message saying she was a great mom. I guess it was great timing.

We know the screams and cries are intense and quite annoying. Trust me, we are hearing the same thing. Maybe, instead of giving a dirty look or stare, say “it’ll be okay” give us a nod and smile, if not just don’t look at us at all! Go about your damn day! We have a right to go out and enjoy a day out the house with actual clothes and a new scenery. It takes a lot for us to get the kids ready, get ourselves ready, pack their stuff, put them in the car, it’s a huge process. Whether we are at a restaurant, shopping, or at Barnes and Noble. Matter of a fact the many Barnes and Nobles I’ve been to had a pretty big sections for kids, they even carry toys. I’m sure they knew if kids would be going there to pick out books, it would be noisy.

Either way, just stop being so judge mental and pretending to be so perfect. You can stare at me all you want and I’m going to stare right back and go about my way to find what I came there for. After all, I had to wrestle my toddler to get into clothes, put on his shoes multiple times. I didn’t do all that for nothing. But, not everyone can do it, it’s hard to not give a crap about what other people say but, it comes a time when you have to say enough is enough and just let it be what it is.

I’m very glad I messaged my cousin and I was able to give her some words of encouragement and hopefully made her feel a tad bit better. She is an amazing mother and God gave her these beautiful twins to love and care for and God does not give us anything we can’t handle. Don’t get me wrong I’m not an expert whatsoever but, I feel like we should be encouraging and helping each other instead of making us feel like we can’t care for our kids. Every parent is different and their parenting style is different, so if you have some tips that you may think will make it better, pass it along. If the “perfect” Pattys of the world want to pass down their wisdom on how to control some toddlers, pass it on girly. Haha, I’m kidding keep it to yourself cause no one is perfect.

To all my mamas, you’ve got this! No your toddler is not the only one that wants to run around the store. No, your toddler is not the only one that wanted to take a nap on the floor and got mad when you picked them up. No, you’re baby is not the only one that is hungry and is crying to let you know. Hell, I’m 25 years old and I cry when I’m hungry. You’re not alone in this crazy thing that is called being a parent. Much love to you all!!! Hug those little booger’s extra tight, they won’t stay little for long!

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What To Get Mom?

Hello Beautifuls! Mother’s Day is this Sunday and even though we should always feel special and make our moms feel special, it’s nice to be extra spoiled and pampered for a day. Speaking of being spoiled, I have some ideas on some gifts that moms would love. Some are on my wishlist but, my wishlist can get a bit pricey so, I’ll be sharing some more affordable gifts.

So let’s start with my wishlist. They range from a mug to luxury. First on the list is a mug from Etsy. It’s super cute and funny. As, a mother some of us don’t really get much sleep. Mainly because we stay up late getting stuff cleaned and getting some time to yourself. Even though, we stay up late it doesn’t mean we get to sleep in so, we have to wake up when we have a toddler in your face at 6am. So, we may have some dark circles and bags under our eyes and this mug is super relatable.

Isn’t it the cutest? You can find it here The Bags Under My Eyes Are Louis Vuitton .

Following item on my wishlist is from Melsy Illustrations, it’s the cutest drawing of a mother and son. You can customize the color of skin and hair. It’s so cute and perfect for a mother of a boy. She also has a mom and daughter drawing too.

It’s just so adorable and a great piece to add to any work space or home. Click here to find it. Melsy Illustration .

Every mom needs a little something special. The last thing on my wish list is this simple Tiffany’s ring. The way it can be made special is Tiffany & Co. can engrave anything you want on the inside. It could be the kids initials or birthday, basically anything you want.

Get this simple yet iconic ring at Tiffany & Co. Ring. .

Moving onto some ideas that aren’t on my wishlist but, are still nice to get.

A simple little painting from the kids would be a great gift for the grandmas in their lives. Even if it’s just a hand print it will be cherished.

One can always appreciate a beautiful bouquet of flowers. A GOOD breakfast in bed. A nice dinner with the family. These last one not one penny needs to be spent and they are letting mom sleep in, and when I say sleep in , I mean take the kids out of the house. I don’t know about other moms but, I know even if I want to sleep in I’m always listening on what’s going on in the living room. So, take the kids out of the house. Maybe do the dishes. Put in a load of laundry and put it away. These little things would mean the world to a mom. Am I right, mamas?

Well, I hope all you mamas have a great Mother’s Day!

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Goals Update.

Hello Beautifuls! Hope y’all are having a great New Year so far and are crushing y’alls goals! This girl right here is on a roll! Some goals have been achieved, some are in progress, and some are going to start on fresh start February. Haha. If you go back to my last post, you’ll see all of the goals I’ve set up for myself this year.

The first goal that I’m absolutely proud of is the start of potty training my sweet baby boy… well, I guess he’s not a baby anymore. Queue the sad violin and ugly crying. Today, marked a whole week of potty training! He’s is doing so good, we have way more successful trips to the potty and very little accidents, only two a day to be exact. I had a few tricks to help this go as smoothly as possible. I made him a potty chart and I help him draw a star for every good potty break, I bribed him with candy stickers, gave him a lot of juice, and finally I would let him watch his favorite movie or cartoons. Let me tell y’all it’s has been going ALOT better than I thought it would’ve been. Even though, it’s all going smooth, it has to be the most exhausting thing I’ve ever done. We aren’t fully trained yet but, so far so good and that makes me one happy and proud mommy.

The next goal that I have started and I’m pretty obsessed with is my cleaning schedule and meal planner. This is a new goal and it’s all thanks to my bestie Sarah and the new series on Netflix tidying up with Marie Kondo. Now, I didn’t go quite drastic on my cleaning like on the show but, it sure did put a pep in my step to get my life together. I did get rid a lot of our clothes and got rid of things I no longer used or wanted and to my surprise my hubby was on board with this new way of living. The schedule has really been a life changer, I always felt like I was cleaning and nothing seemed to stay cleaned and it really discouraged me and just pissed me off. But, now it’s so much easier to keep up with everything and not feel overwhelmed. I highly recommend doing one if you’re feeling helpless.

The third to last goal I made was to read more books. To be completely honest, I’m not a big reader, I just want to lead my toddler by example to read more books. He already likes for me to read to him but, I want him to love it and hopefully he will be able to read himself soon. Also, I want to work on myself and not just Netflix and chill all the time.

My last goal is on the materialistic side. Thanks to my adorable baby brothers, who aren’t such babies anymore, they gave me the LV Confidental bracelet. I’m obsessed, it’s so simple but, yet so pretty.

So that’s all of the goals that I’ve achieved so far and it’s only January. I told myself that this is the year I accomplish all the goals I’ve set out for myself and so far I’m kicking this years butt.

Also, don’t get discouraged if you haven’t met the goals just yet, something is always going to try and get in your way. Just start them whenever, don’t wait til next year to start something. You can start next month, week or even the next day. It is up to you to take control of your life and make the changes you want.

What are some of the goals you set for this year?

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Transitioning My Toddler to His Big Boy Bed.

Hello beautifuls! I hope y’all are doing amazing this week. I’m doing amazing and super excited for my birthday coming up in a couple days, but I’m also bugging out that I’m turning 25, in 5 more years I’ll be 30! WOW! But, let’s move on to another little person who keeps growing and breaking my heart, my squishy, my toddler Jason. We recently transitioned him from his crib, since he would escape from every morning. This was a sign that he was ready for a big boy bed. A huge thanks to grandma and grandpa for buying him his toddler bed, y’all are the best.

I had so much fun making his room a big boy room. He really didn’t have a lot of decor for his nursery since we moved to Japan. So, I went into diy mode and made some of his room decor. Thanks to the yen store here in Japan I was able to make his decor for cheap. It was easy to pick what his room was going to be since he is obsessed with cars and loves the movies from Disney Cars. I first started with these box displays, I painted them to look like roads, I have been collecting mini cars and I thought it would be a perfect way to display them in his room. I think they are the cutest things ever!

The next thing I made was a sign with his name on it. Now, this took a while to make, but it turned out sooo awesome! This took three 8×11 canvas boards, a printer to print out the letters, mod podge, and a lot of patience. I was able to find free fonts to create the font of the movie Cars. I then started to trace out every square to make a race car flag. I painted the square black and white, once it was dry I mod podged the letters onto the canvas. This helps it lay the letters flat and seem like they are painted on. To make the 95’s that are on each side of his name sign, I used smaller canvas and painted them red, printed the number 95 and mod podged it on the canvases. I felt like this really brought the name sign together.

I was able to find these hooks at the yen store and painted it red, I thought it would be great to hang his backpack and jackets. This was the one thing that wasn’t as time consuming. But, it looks great.

I found the carpet at a store called nafco, it’s so soft and fluffy, I have the exact same one in my beauty room in pink. They are high quality carpets and were super affordable, can y’all believe they were only $40! I had to snatch them up. His little table I bought on amazon for $35 and the little bar stools I bought at daiso for $4 each. The bed set I bought from target on sale. And lastly the wall art I got on Etsy, it was $3 for the digital copy of the cars. I then printed them out on photo paper.

Jason loves his new bed and room. I think it turned out amazing! What do y’all think?

Got Ink?

Hello beautifuls! I hope y’all have a great Monday and start y’alls week of right. Today’s post I’ll be talking about a little something I did when I was back home stateside. What is that little something I did, you may ask? Well… after a lot of thinking and backing out for years, I finally got my first tattoo! To some people this isn’t a big deal, but for me it was a really big deal. I have been wanting a tattoo for years, there was actually a night when we lived in North Carolina I walked into a place and I was ready to get one. Unfortunately, the one I wanted and where I wanted it was something that I would have to touch up often and I wasn’t about that life. But, I kept thinking of what I would want to get and finding the balls to get one, I really wanted to get something meaningful and very important to me.

I still can’t believe I actually got one, I finally got the nerve and did it. This tattoo has so much meaning to me, it makes me smile every time I look at it. One of the reasons it so special to me is because my baby brother and I were going to get our first tattoos done together and he was sweet enough to pay for mine. It was my Mother’s Day gift from him, I swear I have the sweetest brothers, three to be exact. The second reason is I got something that meant a lot to me, which is the date my baby boy was born. He was an absolute blessing itself.

At the age of 18, I was told by doctors I couldn’t get pregnant due to this syndrome known as PCOS ( Polycystic ovary syndrome). I was always irregular when it came to my period and my body didn’t release eggs. So, I wouldn’t be able to get pregnant. I was told this is a common issue among young women. But, that didn’t matter to me, I couldn’t believe at a young age I was told I couldn’t be a mother. That news broke my heart and I cried to my parents, and told them you guys will never have a grandchild from me. They hugged me and said “Do not listen to these doctors, if it is in Gods will for you to be a mother, you will be a mother”. I always kept that in my mind, but I didn’t stay optimistic about it. When I got married I told my husband that there was a possibility I would never be able to give him a child. Well, like my parents said God had other plans. A year into being married I got pregnant, I still couldn’t believe it! I took so many tests before and they all came out negative, I just gave up. I was so surprised that it was positive that I wasn’t even sure how to read it. I had to ask my sister in law what does two lines mean. Haha. It was a great day.

My first tattoo owns a special place in my heart and it is something that will always make me smile when I look at it. Thanks to my baby brother who pushed me and was right there to hold my hand when I got it. I’m already thinking about what I want my second tattoo to be.

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Happy Mother’s Day.

Happy Mother’s Day beautiful! I hope you all have an amazing day and are spoiled on this special day. May you get beautiful flowers, an extra 30 minutes of sleep, or maybe not changing some diapers for one day. I don’t know about you but, not changing a few diapers is a great gift to me. As, my Mother’s Day comes to end here in Japan, most of you mommy’s are now getting up to breakfast in bed (I’m hoping) or sleeping in. But, I was giving the best Mother’s Day gift ever! No it wasn’t anything materialistic, we didn’t even go out to a nice brunch or dinner. We stayed home, I got to sleep in a bit, got my house cleaned (to my standards), got a break from wrestling a toddler in order to change a diaper, I got a back massage without complaining and whining, and finally got to eat some yummy food from the comfort of my own home in my sweats. It was a great Mother’s Day for this mommy. I am truly blessed to have such a great husband and such sweet babies. My baby boy makes me feel like the luckiest mommy in the world, if I knew I was going to get lucky with such a great baby the second time I would get on it in a heartbeat, but for now I’m happy with my sweet squishy bear and fur baby. Jason seriously makes being a mommy a piece of cake, with the occasional meltdown but, hey he’s a toddler. He is the most amazing little human ever, we had a bit of struggle the first few weeks after we was born, but after that he was smooth sailing. He is such a great sleeper since he was an infant, he didn’t turn into a little butthole when he was teething. I thought for sure he was going to struggle when transitioning from sleeping with me to his crib at nine months, but no, he was a pro, since the first night we put him in his crib he has not want to sleep with us. Which makes me a little sad, cause I just want to cuddle him at night, he’s just Mr. Independent now. Then, came taking away the binky and bottle and transition to a sippy cup a little after he turned one. I thought for sure that was going to be tough, and yet again he was unphased. We really got lucky with this little guy and not to mention with our fluffikins Lucas. He’s the best dog we could have ever asked for. Like I said he makes being a mommy a piece of cake. I’m truly blessed to be a mom and a fur mom.

Mother’s Shouldn’t Be Allowed To Get Sick!

Hello beautifuls! It’s been a while since I’ve posted on here. It has been a rough couple weeks for me and Jason. For the past couple weeks we have been sick, Jason with an ear infection and I with the most annoying and longest cold ever! Mom’s should not be allowed to get sick! Mom’s take forever to get better due to the fact that we don’t stop. We can’t just sleep in and stay in bed all day. I’m lucky enough to have a toddler that likes to sleep in until 9am, sometimes even later. Being sick wouldn’t have sucked as much if I didn’t have to take care of Jason, go to work, and do school work. I’m extremely lucky that my job was so understanding about me missing some days due to us being sick. I absolutely love my job and everyone I work with. As for school, I will most likely be taking next semester off due to it getting on my nerves. I don’t like online classes at all. My procrastination has gotten the best of me once again. But, I have been able todo my assignments and get good grades. Just a few more weeks left. Thank God! Hopefully this will be a better week and stay tuned for my next post I will have some very special guests! Yay! Well, I hope y’all have a great week!

For all my mommy’s out there, what remedies do y’all take to feel better faster? What do y’all do to make your little one feel better? Let me know!

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