Stop With The Staring!

Hello beautifuls! Today’s post is for all the mamas, daddy’s, anyone who has a baby/ toddler in their lives. I wanted to give a little bit of encouragement to y’all, sometimes we need to hear that we are doing a good job and a great parents.

Reason I want to talk about this topic is because today I was watching my beautiful cousins Instagram stories and she was talking about her trip to Barnes and Nobles with her older son and twins to buy some books. As, I was watching her story I couldn’t help but think about how great of a mom she is. Y’all! She’s got twin boys! I can barely handle my one and only son sometimes, I can’t even imagine trying to care for two toddlers at the same time. So, I decided to message her and tell her what a great mom she is and I kept watching her stories. This is where my mommy nerve got struck.

As, she is talking about the books she bought the boys, she goes into saying that she wasn’t able to grab a book she’s been wanting to read due to the twins getting antsy. When babies and toddlers decide they had enough, they will let you know with a scream or cry that’ll probably make you rethink becoming a parent. Not gonna lie, it’s an awful noise. There’s no controlling it, you can give them anything in the world and it will not calm them down. So, my cousin was explaining that the twins got to that point. This doesn’t mean we are bad moms or bad parents.

We simply can’t control it and when you try to control it, it gets worse. These little humans are difficult little creatures and we don’t need people staring at us like, “get your life and kids together, why are you out in public.” This is what my cousin experienced. No one knows what someone is going through, so your judgey looks don’t really help either. If you think if your nasty look is going to give the mom the power to calm her kid down, you’re an idiot. I just don’t understand why people feel so high and mighty and try to shame a mom like that and make us feel like we are such failures. This is how they made my cousin feel and she felt embarrassed, I didn’t know about this until after I sent her a message saying she was a great mom. I guess it was great timing.

We know the screams and cries are intense and quite annoying. Trust me, we are hearing the same thing. Maybe, instead of giving a dirty look or stare, say “it’ll be okay” give us a nod and smile, if not just don’t look at us at all! Go about your damn day! We have a right to go out and enjoy a day out the house with actual clothes and a new scenery. It takes a lot for us to get the kids ready, get ourselves ready, pack their stuff, put them in the car, it’s a huge process. Whether we are at a restaurant, shopping, or at Barnes and Noble. Matter of a fact the many Barnes and Nobles I’ve been to had a pretty big sections for kids, they even carry toys. I’m sure they knew if kids would be going there to pick out books, it would be noisy.

Either way, just stop being so judge mental and pretending to be so perfect. You can stare at me all you want and I’m going to stare right back and go about my way to find what I came there for. After all, I had to wrestle my toddler to get into clothes, put on his shoes multiple times. I didn’t do all that for nothing. But, not everyone can do it, it’s hard to not give a crap about what other people say but, it comes a time when you have to say enough is enough and just let it be what it is.

I’m very glad I messaged my cousin and I was able to give her some words of encouragement and hopefully made her feel a tad bit better. She is an amazing mother and God gave her these beautiful twins to love and care for and God does not give us anything we can’t handle. Don’t get me wrong I’m not an expert whatsoever but, I feel like we should be encouraging and helping each other instead of making us feel like we can’t care for our kids. Every parent is different and their parenting style is different, so if you have some tips that you may think will make it better, pass it along. If the “perfect” Pattys of the world want to pass down their wisdom on how to control some toddlers, pass it on girly. Haha, I’m kidding keep it to yourself cause no one is perfect.

To all my mamas, you’ve got this! No your toddler is not the only one that wants to run around the store. No, your toddler is not the only one that wanted to take a nap on the floor and got mad when you picked them up. No, you’re baby is not the only one that is hungry and is crying to let you know. Hell, I’m 25 years old and I cry when I’m hungry. You’re not alone in this crazy thing that is called being a parent. Much love to you all!!! Hug those little booger’s extra tight, they won’t stay little for long!

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Clothes And Accessories Haul.

Hello, Beautifuls!!!! How have y’all been? Your girl has been eating, tanning, and shopping! It’s been a great vacation so far. I’ve been in Florida for about a month now and have only a month left until I head back to good ol’ Japan. Since, I’ve been here I’ve been shopping a bit, if you would like to see what new makeup I bought you can check out my last post. This time I’m going to share some of the clothes and accessories I’ve accumulated since I’ve been here, it hasn’t been all in one trip and some have been bought for me by my mom or my baby brothers. I will also share some of the stuff Jason has gotten in another blog.

We’ll start off with some accessories, one of favorites is a ring my sweet baby brother bought me. It’s from pandora and it’s soo flipping pretty!!! I mean look at it!

The next accessories are a bit more affordable. I love my luxury items, but what I love even more is a good sale! Who doesn’t? I have no shame in telling you I got this on sale. I’ve been obsessed with headbands for a couple months now and I found this cute champagne glittery headband for $3! It’s so me! My other favorite purchase was the Mickey Mouse phone case, I love Mickey and I love phone cases so, I couldn’t pass it up especially for $2.

The final accessory is a cute square handbag I found at Ross for $10. It’s a blush and cream color with a gold chain. It’s small but, it can hold a lot.

This is not much of an accessory, but it’s another gift from my baby brother. It’s a Minnie Mouse iPad case, so cute!

Now moving onto clothes! My mom bought me these pieces from American Eagle, my favorite season is fall and I this outfit screams fall to me. Yes, I’m already thinking about fall, summer isn’t really my jam so, I’m ready for cozy crisp days. The skirt also gives my clueless vibes, on of my favorite movies!

The other piece my madre bought was another skirt. I will wear skirts and dresses all year long, nothing some knee high boots can make cozy and warm.

I also found this cute ivory colored dress on sale for $20 in American Eagle. It’s always a good time when you find something super cute on sale!

These next two dresses I found on sale as well at Abercrombie and Fitch. I’m telling y’all I love me some sales. Both dresses were $20, one is a yellow lace dress, super cute for the summer time. The second dress is a cute wrap dress, I can’t wait to wear it in the fall but, can also be worn in the summer.

These three items are from different places. The green romper is from Walmart, it’s so soft and comfortable and it was only $13! Walmart is really stepping up their clothes game. The off the shoulder shirt is from a little boutique and the shorts are from Old Navy.

Lastly, I want to show y’all the red vans my other baby brother bought me. Lately, I’ve been loving the color red, they look so cute with some shorts or jeans and a tee for a casual day.

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New Makeup? Yes, Please!!!

Hello Beautifuls! I’m in Florida and I guess you can say I’m finally rested and up to writing a blog. We got here about three weeks ago, and in those weeks I have really been getting my shopping and eating on. On top of my “treat yo self” attitude, My baby brothers have been spoiling us too. They are the cutest!

I’ll be sharing the new makeup I’ve gotten today. I’ll do another post of the clothes and accessories! Yes, they have to be divided into two. I’m telling ya, my “treat yo self” motto has been going hard here. Since, I’ve slowly been purchasing these item, I didn’t notice how much I’ve accumulated until now. Good thing I didn’t bring that much makeup with me this time.

Only one of the products I bought was a replacement and that was the tarte shapetape concealer. That is my ride or die concealer. I’ve been using it for quite some time now. If you haven’t given it a try I suggest y’all head to an Ulta and give it a go.

Besides the tarte shapetape, I also purchased a tarte primer, this is the first time I’m trying this primer and so far I love it. I hate the super matte, dry makeup look and about all the primers I’ve had before do just that. Since, it’s summer I wanted a more glowy look and the tarte base tape is a hydrating primer and it gives me a great moisturizing feel and leaves my skin glowing. It’s a new fav for sure.

Another primer I got to give it a try is more on the affordable side. It’s the infamous elf poreless putty primer, it is told that it’s a dupe for the more high end tatcha silk canvas primer. Which is another primer I wanted to test out but, didn’t really want to spend fifty something dollars on it. This dupe is only $8 and you can’t beat that. According, to Jeffree Star it’s does the same job as the tatcha one. I haven’t been able to give it a try since I’m so attached to the tarte one. But, I’ll give it a try and give an update.

Moving onto some foundations. Both are new products and had launched while I was here. I was so excited to get to try these ASAP, being in Japan we don’t really have access to new products. I’ve tried both and they are amazeballs!!!

The Juvias Place is one that took the makeup industry by storm. It’s so full coverage a small dot goes such a long way. Like holy cow! The price is the cherry on top, it’s only $20, like it can’t get any better than that!

The second foundation is the hello happy from benefit. This is not as thick or full coverage as the previous foundation but, it gives me the coverage I need and it gives me the glowy look I want. It’s perfect for this hot weather in Florida. I’ve been using this foundation the most since I got it and the packaging is the cutest.

This product is a powder foundation, I took the recommendation from one of my favorite YouTuber, Nicole Guerriero. She wasn’t playing with this one!!! If you don’t like to put in the time to blend out or you just simply don’t have time, this is the makeup forever powder for you! It’s like no other powder I’ve tried before. It’s blurring and the coverage is out of this world. It’s a definite favorite for me and will always be.

I also picked up another makeup forever product, one of my favorite blushes fell and broke into dust. Tragic! So I had to get another blush. This blush is so pretty and a little goes along way. Like I have to be careful or I’ll end up looking like a clown in these streets. For $25 you get the blush and refill pan. It can be swapped out for a bronzer or highlighter.

The last products are more skincare. The first product my sweet baby brother got for me along with another thing that I’ll share later in a different post. This glow oil makes me look like a have the skin of a goddess. My skin feels and looks so smooth and the smell screams summer times. Before I go home I need to buy another bottle I need to glow all year round.

Second product is a lip mask. It’s suppose to leave your lips smooth and reduce lines. I haven’t given it a 100% try but I did test it out for a few and for the amount of time it did make my lips smooth. I’ll give an update later on.

And lastly is a somewhat new product that’s hit the scene. It’s definitely new to me! My favorite youtuber Nicole Guerriero raves about this sunscreen. I have never been a person that protected myself from the sun but, the older I’m getting I would like to save my face from wrinkles and dark spots. Also, I hate putting sunscreen on, it smells gross, it’s feel so nasty on and it’s a total b*tch to take off but, this product allows you to protect from the sun and put on makeup on top of it. It’s sort of a oil consistency and at the same time hydrates your skin. It’s pretty amazing! You can find it in Sephora or on their website. For a while they were always sold out and this was the last one they had in store. So, I’m guessing it’s a great product. I’ll give it a try and give an update along with the other products.

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Okinawa Trip.

Hello Beautifuls! We got back from our family vacation a few days ago. It was an amazing trip, we got to celebrate Jason’s 3rd birthday our there, but we were ready to be home! Mainly because I fly out to Florida Wednesday so, I wanted a few days to rest before I had to tackle the airport with a toddler again, BY MYSELF. The struggle is all worth it though when I see my crazy family and I’ll have round o’clock babysitters so, I’ll get to rest. Lol. Back to our Okinawa trip, we had a blast and just so happy to see our besties again. Jason and Perri were inseparable and troublemakers for sure but, put two toddlers in the same house and what do you expect. Especially only child toddlers.

We went on a few adventures while we were there, we also stayed in and relaxed because well, it’s a vacation. No need to run ourselves ragged. Also, doing things with toddlers is already an adventure it’s self.

On our first adventure in Okinawa was this park called pineapple park. Yes, it’s a park about pineapples. We stumbled upon it looking a for a park with dinosaurs but, we couldn’t find it. Luckily, this place had a little dinosaur exhibit. Jason and Perri are into dinosaurs so it was a hit with the kids and it was a really cool experience for Jason. We thought it would scare him and we would never have to see Jurassic park movie again. We were wrong. It was an interesting park to say the least.

We ate at a cute little place called Calin. We ate taco rice casserole and had some yummy French toast and parfait for dessert. I didn’t get a chance to take a picture, my toddler dug right in.

Following this fun adventure, we did something a little bit more cultured. We visited the Shuri Castle, they even had a little stamp map and at the end of the course of we got all the stamps we got a little souvenir. It was a gorgeous castle, the kids sure did enjoy running around and burning off some energy. The locals were also taking pictures with the kids it was quite funny. They were like little celebrities.

The last big adventure we had was for Jason Birthday! He woke up to balloons and gifts. We went to the second biggest aquarium there is. We saw big sting rays, a whale shark, a big ugly fish, and a dolphin show with the most amazing view. Jason was so intrigued by the sharks, they are a favorite as well. I got the kids matching shirts, they looked soo cute. It was a great day and full of fun memories. We then celebrated at home with some cupcakes my bestie was kind enough to make for him. She’s the best! Jason also bought some souvenirs with the money my parents and brother sent him. He was also sweet enough to pick out a pink dolphin for his best friend Perri. It literally melted my heart how giving and thoughtful my squishy is.

The rest of the days were pretty chill and we went to a place called American village and the views were gorgeous! We ate at this amazing burger place and had ice cream at blue seal. It was all so yummy.

I also had to get some souvenirs from this trip. The most important one is my Starbucks mug, I now have 4 Mugs from different places in Japan. I also picked up a magnet, a pin, & a keychain and picture from the pineapple park.

It was a beautiful island and a great experience. I’m absolutely blessed to have been able to go this trip and make memories with my family and friend. Like, y’all can see I wasn’t lying when I said they were inseparable. They held hands and hugged all the time. It’s was so sweet, my heart just melted every time. Now, I have to prepare for my trip to Florida!

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Family Summer Vacation.

Hello beautifuls! Hopefully y’alls week is going amazing so far. My week is flying by and I’m absolutely okay with that because, we are going on our summer vacation to Okinawa, Japan this Friday. For those thinking why are you so excited if you live in Japan? Well, there a couple of reasons why I’m super stoked. First reason, we get to celebrate my squishy’s third birthday on a beautiful island. There’s so many things we want to do! Second, our closest friends are stationed there and we can’t wait to see them! Third, like I said before we are going to be on a beautiful island, the beaches are gorgeous and there are views for days! It’s pretty much a Japanese version of Hawaii. Finally, the yummy food! Every time my bestie posts something on Instagram my mouth waters.

We will be there for a week and packing for myself is a hassle on it’s own. I have to plan my outfits and have backup outfits just in case I’m not in the mood for the outfit I had planned. So, add two more people, my toddler and hubby, now it’s a party! Well, packing for my squishy isn’t hard, I choose what I want him to wear but, I also have to plan what goes with what and have back ups, you just in case. The hubby I guess isn’t hard either but, at the same it is because, what I would like him to wear, he won’t wear and so I’m making sure I’m packing enough shorts and T-shirt’s that look presentable and will keep him comfy. Making sure we have enough drawers for the week and packing what shoes goes with what time 3. Oh lawd! We leave Friday and I’m starting today. I’m usually packing days in advance but, I figured it’s only a week it won’t be that hectic. I was wrong.

Besides, having clothes all spread out on my floor, I wanted to share some new things I bought for this trip. I’m going to start with some outfits, I’m only going to show the outfits I’m really excited to wear on this trip and I really don’t have the time to share all the outfits.

The first one is this super cute pink and white polka dotted jumpsuit I bought from target. I will be pairing it with my favorite strapped heels also from target.

The second outfit is a cute red and flower dress from target. I thought would be perfect for the island. I’m pairing it with my blush heels as well.

Lastly, is my favorite black high waisted jeans with a Gilmore girls shirt. I bought my a bestie a matching one and since we are planning on hitting up as many coffee shops as possible, it was only fitting to wear a Gilmore girls shirt! Both are from target.

Moving on to these last two items I bought for this trip and for my trip to the states I have coming up this month as well. One being a jewelry travel case, I bought this on amazon for $10 and it’s amazing. It’s thin enough to fit in my carry on or handbag. It has great compartments for necklaces, earrings, & rings. I won’t have to worry about my necklaces getting tangled or loosing an earring, it’s all in one place. To make things better it’s pink!

The last thing is a face mask one of the YouTubers I watch Nicole Guerrero recommended. I usually don’t really get into the hype of the all the products influencers rave about but, I decided to give this one a chance. Like I mentioned before I will also be going to Florida this month and that is a looong flight! So, my skin is going to be going through it with all the recycled air from the plane. This face mask is meant to hydrate the face and make your skin look healthy. Let me tell you, it’s amazing and I just used it twice so far. My skin was hydrated and smooth, I will be putting this on while I’m on that 10 hour flight and possibly every time I get on a plane and I have about 3 layovers. Soooo fun!

Looking forward to sharing our trip with y’all soon!!!

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Saying Goodbye To The Tori Gate.

Hello beautifuls! It’s been a hot minute since I’ve been on here, I miss y’all! How y’all been? How are y’all spending your Memorial Day weekend?

We had a pretty adventurous weekend. We started off by going to the island of Miyajima to see the Tori Gate before it went down to be reconstructed. It will be going under construction this June and will be down for two years. We will be leaving Japan next year. It was the prefect opportunity to go on a little adventure and get a picture and create memories before we depart.

This island is also known as deer island, as there are wild deer everywhere. It’s not advise to feed them or they will stalk you forever. Jason was frightened at first but, then got use to them and wanted to pet them. Besides the deers, it was nice to see the architecture and shrines.(It’s not allowed to take pictures of the shrines). The hubby and squishy got some ice cream and I, of course got some Starbucks. The whole island is so beautiful, it truly is an experience.

Today, Memorial Day, we went over to a friends house and had a cookout. Being with our military family and eating was a great way to spend this day. I’m truly blessed to have my husband home everyday. My heart goes out to all the families that have lost their loved ones fighting for our amazing country. This day is for you, you may be gone but never forgotten.

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What To Get Mom?

Hello Beautifuls! Mother’s Day is this Sunday and even though we should always feel special and make our moms feel special, it’s nice to be extra spoiled and pampered for a day. Speaking of being spoiled, I have some ideas on some gifts that moms would love. Some are on my wishlist but, my wishlist can get a bit pricey so, I’ll be sharing some more affordable gifts.

So let’s start with my wishlist. They range from a mug to luxury. First on the list is a mug from Etsy. It’s super cute and funny. As, a mother some of us don’t really get much sleep. Mainly because we stay up late getting stuff cleaned and getting some time to yourself. Even though, we stay up late it doesn’t mean we get to sleep in so, we have to wake up when we have a toddler in your face at 6am. So, we may have some dark circles and bags under our eyes and this mug is super relatable.

Isn’t it the cutest? You can find it here The Bags Under My Eyes Are Louis Vuitton .

Following item on my wishlist is from Melsy Illustrations, it’s the cutest drawing of a mother and son. You can customize the color of skin and hair. It’s so cute and perfect for a mother of a boy. She also has a mom and daughter drawing too.

It’s just so adorable and a great piece to add to any work space or home. Click here to find it. Melsy Illustration .

Every mom needs a little something special. The last thing on my wish list is this simple Tiffany’s ring. The way it can be made special is Tiffany & Co. can engrave anything you want on the inside. It could be the kids initials or birthday, basically anything you want.

Get this simple yet iconic ring at Tiffany & Co. Ring. .

Moving onto some ideas that aren’t on my wishlist but, are still nice to get.

A simple little painting from the kids would be a great gift for the grandmas in their lives. Even if it’s just a hand print it will be cherished.

One can always appreciate a beautiful bouquet of flowers. A GOOD breakfast in bed. A nice dinner with the family. These last one not one penny needs to be spent and they are letting mom sleep in, and when I say sleep in , I mean take the kids out of the house. I don’t know about other moms but, I know even if I want to sleep in I’m always listening on what’s going on in the living room. So, take the kids out of the house. Maybe do the dishes. Put in a load of laundry and put it away. These little things would mean the world to a mom. Am I right, mamas?

Well, I hope all you mamas have a great Mother’s Day!

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