Stop With The Staring!

Hello beautifuls! Today’s post is for all the mamas, daddy’s, anyone who has a baby/ toddler in their lives. I wanted to give a little bit of encouragement to y’all, sometimes we need to hear that we are doing a good job and a great parents.

Reason I want to talk about this topic is because today I was watching my beautiful cousins Instagram stories and she was talking about her trip to Barnes and Nobles with her older son and twins to buy some books. As, I was watching her story I couldn’t help but think about how great of a mom she is. Y’all! She’s got twin boys! I can barely handle my one and only son sometimes, I can’t even imagine trying to care for two toddlers at the same time. So, I decided to message her and tell her what a great mom she is and I kept watching her stories. This is where my mommy nerve got struck.

As, she is talking about the books she bought the boys, she goes into saying that she wasn’t able to grab a book she’s been wanting to read due to the twins getting antsy. When babies and toddlers decide they had enough, they will let you know with a scream or cry that’ll probably make you rethink becoming a parent. Not gonna lie, it’s an awful noise. There’s no controlling it, you can give them anything in the world and it will not calm them down. So, my cousin was explaining that the twins got to that point. This doesn’t mean we are bad moms or bad parents.

We simply can’t control it and when you try to control it, it gets worse. These little humans are difficult little creatures and we don’t need people staring at us like, “get your life and kids together, why are you out in public.” This is what my cousin experienced. No one knows what someone is going through, so your judgey looks don’t really help either. If you think if your nasty look is going to give the mom the power to calm her kid down, you’re an idiot. I just don’t understand why people feel so high and mighty and try to shame a mom like that and make us feel like we are such failures. This is how they made my cousin feel and she felt embarrassed, I didn’t know about this until after I sent her a message saying she was a great mom. I guess it was great timing.

We know the screams and cries are intense and quite annoying. Trust me, we are hearing the same thing. Maybe, instead of giving a dirty look or stare, say “it’ll be okay” give us a nod and smile, if not just don’t look at us at all! Go about your damn day! We have a right to go out and enjoy a day out the house with actual clothes and a new scenery. It takes a lot for us to get the kids ready, get ourselves ready, pack their stuff, put them in the car, it’s a huge process. Whether we are at a restaurant, shopping, or at Barnes and Noble. Matter of a fact the many Barnes and Nobles I’ve been to had a pretty big sections for kids, they even carry toys. I’m sure they knew if kids would be going there to pick out books, it would be noisy.

Either way, just stop being so judge mental and pretending to be so perfect. You can stare at me all you want and I’m going to stare right back and go about my way to find what I came there for. After all, I had to wrestle my toddler to get into clothes, put on his shoes multiple times. I didn’t do all that for nothing. But, not everyone can do it, it’s hard to not give a crap about what other people say but, it comes a time when you have to say enough is enough and just let it be what it is.

I’m very glad I messaged my cousin and I was able to give her some words of encouragement and hopefully made her feel a tad bit better. She is an amazing mother and God gave her these beautiful twins to love and care for and God does not give us anything we can’t handle. Don’t get me wrong I’m not an expert whatsoever but, I feel like we should be encouraging and helping each other instead of making us feel like we can’t care for our kids. Every parent is different and their parenting style is different, so if you have some tips that you may think will make it better, pass it along. If the “perfect” Pattys of the world want to pass down their wisdom on how to control some toddlers, pass it on girly. Haha, I’m kidding keep it to yourself cause no one is perfect.

To all my mamas, you’ve got this! No your toddler is not the only one that wants to run around the store. No, your toddler is not the only one that wanted to take a nap on the floor and got mad when you picked them up. No, you’re baby is not the only one that is hungry and is crying to let you know. Hell, I’m 25 years old and I cry when I’m hungry. You’re not alone in this crazy thing that is called being a parent. Much love to you all!!! Hug those little booger’s extra tight, they won’t stay little for long!

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Happy Birthday To My Love!

Hello beautifuls!!! Today’s post is dedicated to my ride or die, my best friend, the love of my life; My Husband! We have been celebrating his birthday all weekend long leading up to his birthday today.

He turned 25 and now he’s as old as me, until I turn 26 in a few months and feel like an old fart all over again. We started of the celebration with going to buy his big gift. I’ve never seen him so gunho about anything our entire marriage. This man is super hard to shop for, he deserves the world but, rather have a sticker type man. So, this year he wanted a kayak and I was so excited I finally had a great gift to get him. Friday night I sorta tricked him into coming to the store with me to get his gift. I’m a tiny person there was no way I would be able to carry and put a kayak on the car. He had no idea he was getting a kayak that day. Let’s just say he was like a little kid that saw a mountain of presents under the tree on Christmas morning. His excitement made me sooo happy.

After, dropping of the kayak, we had to go get him and Jason some life vest but, not any kind of vest, a fisherman vest. Haha. That’s right, my man now is a fisherman or he wants to be. What kind of wife would I be to kill a mans dreams. Hahaha.

Moving onto Saturday morning, I took him to get a pedicure, we use to get them all the time in the states and it has been a while for him. He now says he’s sliding in his boots. After, the pedi, we headed to this restaurant my nail lady recommended. It was a 50s diner and had pretty good American food. Headed to the restaurant and it was the cutest place I’ve been in Japan, restaurant wise. They Marilyn Monroe and Elvis everywhere, a jukebox, and all things 50s. Besides, the amazing 50s aesthetics, the food was delicious. I didn’t even take a picture of how good it was. But, I did take a picture of our yummy dessert. When we were done with our parfait, we headed out to the backyard where they had some tables, a swing, and a pond with koi fish. It was so beautiful and we are definitely going back.

On Sunday we took the kayak for a swim in the lakes of Japan. I stayed on short, due my fear of open waters but, that’s a story for a different time. Both my babies were ready for some kayak fun. They had in their life vests and were off. I thought my toddler would be overboard in a matter of seconds but surprisingly he actually stayed calm and enjoyed the ride. I may have lost my husband for the majority of the weekend but, it’s totally worth it. The happiness on his face was everything.

Monday was a work day so, we didn’t do much. We were pretty tired from our exciting weekend.

Tuesday was his birthday, so after work Jason gave him presents, he got daddy some under armor running shorts and a champion sweatshirt. We then went to dinner at chili’s and stuffed our faces and Jason stole his birthday dessert.

It was an amazing birthday filled with fun and some spoiling. Is there any other way to celebrate a birthday?

Happy Birthday My Love!

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What We Got For Christmas.

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Hello Beautifuls! I hope you all had a great Christmas with friends and family. We had a great Christmas Eve with our friends. This is our second Christmas in Japan, for some reason this year it hit me super hard that I was not with my family. To be honest, im still a little down, but I have to push through and just think that we just have a year and a few months left. Thank God I had amazing friends that came over to celebrate this holiday with. My friend I call my nugget bestie and her husband came over and we had a great time. This was our first time ever doing a Christmas dinner, I think for it being our first time cooking a big meal, we kinda nailed it.

So, let me start of by saying I’m not a cook or baker by any means. Now, y’all may think mashed potatoes aren’t that hard to make but, for someone that has never done homemade anything, it was a big deal for me and may I add they came out super yummy. The other thing I made were Texas sheet cake cookies, I got the recipe from Pinterest! The fact that it didn’t turn into a Pinterest fail is huge and they came out super yummy. Another, Pinterest recipe I saw and managed to not mess it up was making a crockpot creamy hot cocoa, best hot cocoa I have ever tasted. It was a proud moment for me and it gave me a little bit of confidence in the kitchen. My husband also threw it down in the kitchen he made a delicious prime rib roast, a cheese cornbread casserole, and some peanut butter balls. Overall, it was a great time and very blessed to have been able to celebrate this holiday with my little family and friends.

 

 

 

 

Now, onto what we got for Christmas, we will start with the person that got all of the gifts under my tiny tree, my squishy face.  He sure got spoiled by my parents this year, they got him a power wheel Silverado, shoes, clothes, and some learning toys. Santa brought him cars, Lighting McQueen stuff, more clothes, and t-ball gear. We tried to not get him useless toys they we will be stumbling on in two days. My aunt also sent him some more clothes, so you can say he is somewhat set on the clothes. Our fur baby got the biggest bone ever and he sure is enjoying it.

 

This Christmas I didn’t get much, like I mentioned before we are saving up to go to Okinawa to visit our friends. From my hubby I got grey UGGS, from my amazing parents and brothers I got money I’m still debating on what to get, my in laws and Brent’s grandmothers also sent Jason some cash. My friends really out did themselves this year, like omg! My boo boo kitty, send me a Kate Spade tumblr and the cutest necklace ever, it made me cry. My other bestie sent me a gorgeous rose gold Minnie necklace, absolutely gorgeous. My nugget bestie got me cute and dainty Japanese earrings and necklace. My friend and old boss got me the new Gabrielle Chanel perfume, she is the bomb. Finally, my friend Taylor got a cricut and made a cute mason jar with my name. I’m a sucker for mason jars. I treated myself to a cute mug that gives me Henri Bendel vibes and a sparkly Starbucks tumblr. I mean how amazing are my friends, I am beyond blessed to have them in my life. Love you guys soooo much!

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Overall, it was an amazing Christmas and I hope you got what you wanted from Santa. Haha.

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Got Ink?

Hello beautifuls! I hope y’all have a great Monday and start y’alls week of right. Today’s post I’ll be talking about a little something I did when I was back home stateside. What is that little something I did, you may ask? Well… after a lot of thinking and backing out for years, I finally got my first tattoo! To some people this isn’t a big deal, but for me it was a really big deal. I have been wanting a tattoo for years, there was actually a night when we lived in North Carolina I walked into a place and I was ready to get one. Unfortunately, the one I wanted and where I wanted it was something that I would have to touch up often and I wasn’t about that life. But, I kept thinking of what I would want to get and finding the balls to get one, I really wanted to get something meaningful and very important to me.

I still can’t believe I actually got one, I finally got the nerve and did it. This tattoo has so much meaning to me, it makes me smile every time I look at it. One of the reasons it so special to me is because my baby brother and I were going to get our first tattoos done together and he was sweet enough to pay for mine. It was my Mother’s Day gift from him, I swear I have the sweetest brothers, three to be exact. The second reason is I got something that meant a lot to me, which is the date my baby boy was born. He was an absolute blessing itself.

At the age of 18, I was told by doctors I couldn’t get pregnant due to this syndrome known as PCOS ( Polycystic ovary syndrome). I was always irregular when it came to my period and my body didn’t release eggs. So, I wouldn’t be able to get pregnant. I was told this is a common issue among young women. But, that didn’t matter to me, I couldn’t believe at a young age I was told I couldn’t be a mother. That news broke my heart and I cried to my parents, and told them you guys will never have a grandchild from me. They hugged me and said “Do not listen to these doctors, if it is in Gods will for you to be a mother, you will be a mother”. I always kept that in my mind, but I didn’t stay optimistic about it. When I got married I told my husband that there was a possibility I would never be able to give him a child. Well, like my parents said God had other plans. A year into being married I got pregnant, I still couldn’t believe it! I took so many tests before and they all came out negative, I just gave up. I was so surprised that it was positive that I wasn’t even sure how to read it. I had to ask my sister in law what does two lines mean. Haha. It was a great day.

My first tattoo owns a special place in my heart and it is something that will always make me smile when I look at it. Thanks to my baby brother who pushed me and was right there to hold my hand when I got it. I’m already thinking about what I want my second tattoo to be.

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Mini Family Vacation.

Hello Beautifuls! How is y’alls summer going so far? Mine as been filled with family love, laughter, shopping, a lot of shopping, and creating great memories. I’ve been in Florida for about two months, I’ll be heading back to Japan Sunday morning. I can’t believe how fast these months have gone by. It’s going to be so sad to say goodbye to my family again for another year and a half. I will miss them very much and I’m sure they are going to miss us, especially Jason. But, we will be back before you know it.

Since, being back in the states I’ve gone to target so many times I have lost count. I’ve been deprived so, I needed my fix, don’t judge. We’ve done a lot of shopping, I think I’m set for a while and so is Jason. I’ll do a separate post on our big shopping hauls. We’ve gone on little vacations such as, going to North Carolina to see the in laws and going on a spontaneous two day beach trip. I was able to find us the cutest resort right on the beach with like a few hours notice, not days, hours! It turned out to be an amazing trip. I couldn’t ask for any better in laws. We’ve just came back from Orlando, it was Jason’s first time at SeaWorld. He loved all the shows, music, and little water parks. He sure came home pooped. I got the chance to really bond with my not so little brothers, we got on all the rides and just had a lot of fun. So much fun that I now have no voice. Since we couldn’t make it to Disney World and I had to get my Disney fix, we headed down to Disney Springs. I was so happy, I was like a little kid in a candy shop. It was magical. On top of these little trips, I’ve been enjoying the Florida sun, I finally have a tan! Jason has enjoyed both of his grandparents pools, he’s like a little fish. I couldn’t have asked for a better vacation. I’m so grateful for my amazing husband for making all this possible.

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Happy Mother’s Day.

Happy Mother’s Day beautiful! I hope you all have an amazing day and are spoiled on this special day. May you get beautiful flowers, an extra 30 minutes of sleep, or maybe not changing some diapers for one day. I don’t know about you but, not changing a few diapers is a great gift to me. As, my Mother’s Day comes to end here in Japan, most of you mommy’s are now getting up to breakfast in bed (I’m hoping) or sleeping in. But, I was giving the best Mother’s Day gift ever! No it wasn’t anything materialistic, we didn’t even go out to a nice brunch or dinner. We stayed home, I got to sleep in a bit, got my house cleaned (to my standards), got a break from wrestling a toddler in order to change a diaper, I got a back massage without complaining and whining, and finally got to eat some yummy food from the comfort of my own home in my sweats. It was a great Mother’s Day for this mommy. I am truly blessed to have such a great husband and such sweet babies. My baby boy makes me feel like the luckiest mommy in the world, if I knew I was going to get lucky with such a great baby the second time I would get on it in a heartbeat, but for now I’m happy with my sweet squishy bear and fur baby. Jason seriously makes being a mommy a piece of cake, with the occasional meltdown but, hey he’s a toddler. He is the most amazing little human ever, we had a bit of struggle the first few weeks after we was born, but after that he was smooth sailing. He is such a great sleeper since he was an infant, he didn’t turn into a little butthole when he was teething. I thought for sure he was going to struggle when transitioning from sleeping with me to his crib at nine months, but no, he was a pro, since the first night we put him in his crib he has not want to sleep with us. Which makes me a little sad, cause I just want to cuddle him at night, he’s just Mr. Independent now. Then, came taking away the binky and bottle and transition to a sippy cup a little after he turned one. I thought for sure that was going to be tough, and yet again he was unphased. We really got lucky with this little guy and not to mention with our fluffikins Lucas. He’s the best dog we could have ever asked for. Like I said he makes being a mommy a piece of cake. I’m truly blessed to be a mom and a fur mom.

Double the Struggle, Double The Cuteness.

This week I’m honored and so excited to introduce to you all my first feature in my blog,  my beautiful cousin, Kristal and her family. My cousin is a mommy of 3 handsome boys, an 11-year-old named Kristian, and about 5 month old twins. YES, TWINS! Named Marco and Jose, they are identical twins. I’m so jealous that everyone has gotten to hold and play with them. They are so cute it hurts. Just like me, she is part of that military life and has pretty much been doing this by her self with the help of her 11-year-old son. She was lucky to have him there for the birth of the babies but not soon after the birth, he was deployed. That right there is strength and patience, I had a breakdown two weeks after having my baby boy and my husband was away on a field op for a day and he was not far away from me. I had to call him to come home because I thought I was going insane. I was very lucky to have him only a few minutes away. Unlike, my cousin who’s soldier is on the other side of the world. I don’t know any moms with twins, I’m sure its double the struggle, but double the cuteness at the same time. I don’t know how she does it, I get stressed with my one toddler. I tell you what, she is superwoman in my eyes. Having twins can’t be easy and I was curious to know how life is with twins. I’m so happy she agreed and took some time to answer a few question

  1. How did you feel when you found out you were having twins ?

When I found out I was pregnant with twins I was at the OB’s office feeling so sick 🤢 I was having an ultrasound done to see how far along I was in the pregnancy and then I was told by the technician to say “hi to baby A and baby B” I was staring straight at them and still said “ you mean there’s two babies?! “ I guess I was in shock and I started crying tears of joy!

    2.  How long does it take you to get them ready?

It double everything, so it takes double the time to do anything. But I spend at least two hours to get both babies ready!

3. Is it hard to leave the house with twins?

Leaving the house is a very difficult task, I still struggle to go out with the twins!. I have to do a lot of planning and preparing, so these days we only go to the pediatrician and grocery shopping, but I have hope it will get easier.

4. How soon after giving birth did he deploy?

I so happy that he was able to be apart of their birth experience. The babies came in the nick of time! I was induced at 34 Weeks due to preclampsia, and I was blessed to give birth naturally to two healthy babies on September 9th 2017 and he had orders to deploy on September 12th 2017, so I was sad to see him leave exactly a week after the babies were born.

5. What kind of personality do the twins have?

So my boys are identical twins, which means that they look exactly the same but they have different and alike personalities already and they are on 5 months old. Jose is my baby A, he was born first. He is my calm baby, and always smiling! But when he is hungry he is very impatient! Marco is my baby B and was born 15 minutes after his brother! He is my more needy baby, he wants all the attention! I can say he is definitely more serious. But both babies are very sweet and love to giggle and kick all day!

6. How much coffee do you need to get through the day?

I can say Coffee is a must with twins! Without it I’m not sure how I would survive! I drink a lot of coffee, at the least 6 cups a day!

7. Do they sleep through the night?

I can say that I was lucky to have two babies that have been sleeping through the night since they were 3 months. I give them the last bottle at 9pm and by 10pm they are in bed sleeping till 8am for their first bottle.

8. What advice do you have for the mommy’s with twins?

The biggest advice for mommy’s with twins that I have is that patience is very important and very much-needed! Patience is the key! It’s the only way to keep you from getting overwhelmed and frustrated when you have two crying babies at the same exact time, because when you have twins it happens ALOT!

9. How does Kristian ( Chucho)  feel about being a big brother?

We have talked and he does miss being an only child and I believe it’s normal after he was an only child for 11 years, but Chucho loves his brothers, and they love him! They get very excited when he gets home from school! The babies giggle just by looking at him! And he is very helpful when it comes to taking care of the babies. I can see already that the twins will have a very special bond with their big brother!

10. How does it feel to be a mommy again?

Being a mommy to two infants at the same time again after 11 years is an honor! Becoming a mother changes everything and becoming a mother of twins changes everything times two, though sometimes it can feel like times infinity, but I love every moment of it! My 3 boys are my greatest joy in life!

11. Who inspired the name of the twins?

We struggled with names at first, and we wanted their names to be special so I thought that We both love our dads very much and both men are amazing dads! that we decided to name the boys after their grandfathers! Jose and Marco was perfect names for our boys!

Look how beautiful her family is & look hopw great she looks after popping out two tiny humans!

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How cute are these two little tiny bald humans? I love them so much! I want to thank my beautiful cousin for answering these few questions and being the first featured person on my blog! I hope you all enjoyed this post and maybe gave you a bit of baby fever. I sure do.

 

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