It came in flash it seems but, the most wonderful time of the year is here! It’s the first day of December and we already had a day full of winter fun. In the afternoon, since my hubby volunteered to be Santa Claus, I went with some friends to the winter market on base and did a little shopping. The winter market is a place where little home shops can be in one place and sell their products. Yes, you read that right, my husband loves dressing up like Santa Claus and surprisingly he doesn’t scare the kids, they actually like him. Haha. Like, I was saying it was a fun time and Jason got to take a picture with Santa aka daddy. We were scared that he would recognize him and pull down his beard and ruin the illusion for the other kids but, he didn’t. Thank goodness.
Later in the evening, we went to the tree lighting event. There were brownies, hot cocoa, delicious apple cider, yummy food, and Christmas music. This was a great experience and to have been surrounded with friends made it so much more fun. It wasn’t the tree lighting at the Rocker Feller but, it was beautiful nonetheless. We made great memories already and it’s just the first day of December, I can only hope there’s more fun to come.
Today’s post is inspired by a video my lovely friend Elizabeth posted on her channel talking about “Why She Loves Being A Military Wife”. I have always felt blessed being a military spouse, some people don’t get what being a military spouse is. While it does have amazing benefits, it also comes with crazy sacrifices. I’ll start with the reasons why I love being a military spouse and then I’ll get into not so loving parts.
Getting into the first reason why I love being a military spouse is the amazing benefits we have like 100% insurance and housing. I was able to give birth to our beautiful baby boy without having to worry about medical bills. Housing is another great benefit, we either have the choice to stay on base rent free or rent a home off base and be given extra money to cover the costs. Since, we’ve been married we’ve lived on base and haven’t had a bad experience since, well, home wise… people that’s a different story. Haha.
In addition, to the previous reasons I love being a military wife because, it lets us travel the world. If you have been following me for a while y’all know that we are stationed in Japan. Never in a million years did I think I would ever get to see Japan let alone live here for three years. Not only do we get to see different parts of world, but the most important reason is I’m blessed enough to be a stay at home mom. I get to see my squishy grow and see him learn new things everyday. It is a great blessing to be able to stay home and not be financially struggling. I get to only focus on school and my home, you know make sure my husband and child are fed and has clean underwear. Lol. With my husband being in the military once he reaches eight years of services, he can transfer something that is called the GI bill, which gives Jason the opportunity to go to college and have it all paid for.
To say the least, being a military wife it has given me the amazing blessing of meeting greats friends who now we basically consider our little military family. Even though we are spread in different places and may not talk to each other everyday we know that we are there for each other whenever it is needed. Making friends in the military is super important because, like I said before some people just don’t understand what we go through, not even family can understand as well as another military spouse will. So, thank you to my little military family for always being there for me.
Now, onto the sacrifices we have to make as part as being a military wife. Some people look at our lives as being luxurious and being lucky that we can stay home without having to worry about bills and such. Let me tell you, it gets on my ever lasting nerve when people compare their lives and tell me I am lucky I don’t have to worry about bills and we get paid so well that I can stay home and not worry about things most civilians have to worry about. Yes, it’s true I don’t have to worry about these things and yes, my husband is able to give me a luxury every once in a while, but it ain’t all rainbows and butterflies I’ll tell you that. I hate the fact that people only see the good things but, never seem to think or see the sacrifices. One of them being, my husband is not always with us, he can be gone for days, weeks, or even months at a time. It is not always for sure he will be home on time to say goodnight to our child. Being in the military us, wives, need to get used to the words “I Don’t Know” nothing is ever for sure in the military. My husband could be called out to war in a second and there’s nothing I can do. The people who think the pay is so great, don’t think about when my husband comes home late he doesn’t get paid overtime. He can be gone from 5am to 10pm, that’s way past an 8 hour day.
Although, we get to live in different parts of the world, it is a struggle to be so far away from family. Only being able to face time, not being able to be with family on the holidays. Many families have to deal with family members being deployed. Heck, I don’t even know if my husband will be here for Christmas. Like I said we have to get used to the words “I Don’t Know”.
Nevertheless, I love being a military wife, it is a great honor to stand next to a man in uniform who is serving our country. This isn’t a life many can handle but, I wouldn’t want it any other way.
This week I’m honored and so excited to introduce to you all my first feature in my blog, my beautiful cousin, Kristal and her family. My cousin is a mommy of 3 handsome boys, an 11-year-old named Kristian, and about 5 month old twins. YES, TWINS! Named Marco and Jose, they are identical twins. I’m so jealous that everyone has gotten to hold and play with them. They are so cute it hurts. Just like me, she is part of that military life and has pretty much been doing this by her self with the help of her 11-year-old son. She was lucky to have him there for the birth of the babies but not soon after the birth, he was deployed. That right there is strength and patience, I had a breakdown two weeks after having my baby boy and my husband was away on a field op for a day and he was not far away from me. I had to call him to come home because I thought I was going insane. I was very lucky to have him only a few minutes away. Unlike, my cousin who’s soldier is on the other side of the world. I don’t know any moms with twins, I’m sure its double the struggle, but double the cuteness at the same time. I don’t know how she does it, I get stressed with my one toddler. I tell you what, she is superwoman in my eyes. Having twins can’t be easy and I was curious to know how life is with twins. I’m so happy she agreed and took some time to answer a few question
How did you feel when you found out you were having twins ?
When I found out I was pregnant with twins I was at the OB’s office feeling so sick 🤢 I was having an ultrasound done to see how far along I was in the pregnancy and then I was told by the technician to say “hi to baby A and baby B” I was staring straight at them and still said “ you mean there’s two babies?! “ I guess I was in shock and I started crying tears of joy!
2. How long does it take you to get them ready?
It double everything, so it takes double the time to do anything. But I spend at least two hours to get both babies ready!
3. Is it hard to leave the house with twins?
Leaving the house is a very difficult task, I still struggle to go out with the twins!. I have to do a lot of planning and preparing, so these days we only go to the pediatrician and grocery shopping, but I have hope it will get easier.
4. How soon after giving birth did he deploy?
I so happy that he was able to be apart of their birth experience. The babies came in the nick of time! I was induced at 34 Weeks due to preclampsia, and I was blessed to give birth naturally to two healthy babies on September 9th 2017 and he had orders to deploy on September 12th 2017, so I was sad to see him leave exactly a week after the babies were born.
5. What kind of personality do the twins have?
So my boys are identical twins, which means that they look exactly the same but they have different and alike personalities already and they are on 5 months old. Jose is my baby A, he was born first. He is my calm baby, and always smiling! But when he is hungry he is very impatient! Marco is my baby B and was born 15 minutes after his brother! He is my more needy baby, he wants all the attention! I can say he is definitely more serious. But both babies are very sweet and love to giggle and kick all day!
6. How much coffee do you need to get through the day?
I can say Coffee is a must with twins! Without it I’m not sure how I would survive! I drink a lot of coffee, at the least 6 cups a day!
7. Do they sleep through the night?
I can say that I was lucky to have two babies that have been sleeping through the night since they were 3 months. I give them the last bottle at 9pm and by 10pm they are in bed sleeping till 8am for their first bottle.
8. What advice do you have for the mommy’s with twins?
The biggest advice for mommy’s with twins that I have is that patience is very important and very much-needed! Patience is the key! It’s the only way to keep you from getting overwhelmed and frustrated when you have two crying babies at the same exact time, because when you have twins it happens ALOT!
9. How does Kristian ( Chucho) feel about being a big brother?
We have talked and he does miss being an only child and I believe it’s normal after he was an only child for 11 years, but Chucho loves his brothers, and they love him! They get very excited when he gets home from school! The babies giggle just by looking at him! And he is very helpful when it comes to taking care of the babies. I can see already that the twins will have a very special bond with their big brother!
10. How does it feel to be a mommy again?
Being a mommy to two infants at the same time again after 11 years is an honor! Becoming a mother changes everything and becoming a mother of twins changes everything times two, though sometimes it can feel like times infinity, but I love every moment of it! My 3 boys are my greatest joy in life!
11. Who inspired the name of the twins?
We struggled with names at first, and we wanted their names to be special so I thought that We both love our dads very much and both men are amazing dads! that we decided to name the boys after their grandfathers! Jose and Marco was perfect names for our boys!
Look how beautiful her family is & look hopw great she looks after popping out two tiny humans!
How cute are these two little tiny bald humans? I love them so much! I want to thank my beautiful cousin for answering these few questions and being the first featured person on my blog! I hope you all enjoyed this post and maybe gave you a bit of baby fever. I sure do.
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