Stop With The Staring!

Hello beautifuls! Today’s post is for all the mamas, daddy’s, anyone who has a baby/ toddler in their lives. I wanted to give a little bit of encouragement to y’all, sometimes we need to hear that we are doing a good job and a great parents.

Reason I want to talk about this topic is because today I was watching my beautiful cousins Instagram stories and she was talking about her trip to Barnes and Nobles with her older son and twins to buy some books. As, I was watching her story I couldn’t help but think about how great of a mom she is. Y’all! She’s got twin boys! I can barely handle my one and only son sometimes, I can’t even imagine trying to care for two toddlers at the same time. So, I decided to message her and tell her what a great mom she is and I kept watching her stories. This is where my mommy nerve got struck.

As, she is talking about the books she bought the boys, she goes into saying that she wasn’t able to grab a book she’s been wanting to read due to the twins getting antsy. When babies and toddlers decide they had enough, they will let you know with a scream or cry that’ll probably make you rethink becoming a parent. Not gonna lie, it’s an awful noise. There’s no controlling it, you can give them anything in the world and it will not calm them down. So, my cousin was explaining that the twins got to that point. This doesn’t mean we are bad moms or bad parents.

We simply can’t control it and when you try to control it, it gets worse. These little humans are difficult little creatures and we don’t need people staring at us like, “get your life and kids together, why are you out in public.” This is what my cousin experienced. No one knows what someone is going through, so your judgey looks don’t really help either. If you think if your nasty look is going to give the mom the power to calm her kid down, you’re an idiot. I just don’t understand why people feel so high and mighty and try to shame a mom like that and make us feel like we are such failures. This is how they made my cousin feel and she felt embarrassed, I didn’t know about this until after I sent her a message saying she was a great mom. I guess it was great timing.

We know the screams and cries are intense and quite annoying. Trust me, we are hearing the same thing. Maybe, instead of giving a dirty look or stare, say “it’ll be okay” give us a nod and smile, if not just don’t look at us at all! Go about your damn day! We have a right to go out and enjoy a day out the house with actual clothes and a new scenery. It takes a lot for us to get the kids ready, get ourselves ready, pack their stuff, put them in the car, it’s a huge process. Whether we are at a restaurant, shopping, or at Barnes and Noble. Matter of a fact the many Barnes and Nobles I’ve been to had a pretty big sections for kids, they even carry toys. I’m sure they knew if kids would be going there to pick out books, it would be noisy.

Either way, just stop being so judge mental and pretending to be so perfect. You can stare at me all you want and I’m going to stare right back and go about my way to find what I came there for. After all, I had to wrestle my toddler to get into clothes, put on his shoes multiple times. I didn’t do all that for nothing. But, not everyone can do it, it’s hard to not give a crap about what other people say but, it comes a time when you have to say enough is enough and just let it be what it is.

I’m very glad I messaged my cousin and I was able to give her some words of encouragement and hopefully made her feel a tad bit better. She is an amazing mother and God gave her these beautiful twins to love and care for and God does not give us anything we can’t handle. Don’t get me wrong I’m not an expert whatsoever but, I feel like we should be encouraging and helping each other instead of making us feel like we can’t care for our kids. Every parent is different and their parenting style is different, so if you have some tips that you may think will make it better, pass it along. If the “perfect” Pattys of the world want to pass down their wisdom on how to control some toddlers, pass it on girly. Haha, I’m kidding keep it to yourself cause no one is perfect.

To all my mamas, you’ve got this! No your toddler is not the only one that wants to run around the store. No, your toddler is not the only one that wanted to take a nap on the floor and got mad when you picked them up. No, you’re baby is not the only one that is hungry and is crying to let you know. Hell, I’m 25 years old and I cry when I’m hungry. You’re not alone in this crazy thing that is called being a parent. Much love to you all!!! Hug those little booger’s extra tight, they won’t stay little for long!

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What To Get Mom?

Hello Beautifuls! Mother’s Day is this Sunday and even though we should always feel special and make our moms feel special, it’s nice to be extra spoiled and pampered for a day. Speaking of being spoiled, I have some ideas on some gifts that moms would love. Some are on my wishlist but, my wishlist can get a bit pricey so, I’ll be sharing some more affordable gifts.

So let’s start with my wishlist. They range from a mug to luxury. First on the list is a mug from Etsy. It’s super cute and funny. As, a mother some of us don’t really get much sleep. Mainly because we stay up late getting stuff cleaned and getting some time to yourself. Even though, we stay up late it doesn’t mean we get to sleep in so, we have to wake up when we have a toddler in your face at 6am. So, we may have some dark circles and bags under our eyes and this mug is super relatable.

Isn’t it the cutest? You can find it here The Bags Under My Eyes Are Louis Vuitton .

Following item on my wishlist is from Melsy Illustrations, it’s the cutest drawing of a mother and son. You can customize the color of skin and hair. It’s so cute and perfect for a mother of a boy. She also has a mom and daughter drawing too.

It’s just so adorable and a great piece to add to any work space or home. Click here to find it. Melsy Illustration .

Every mom needs a little something special. The last thing on my wish list is this simple Tiffany’s ring. The way it can be made special is Tiffany & Co. can engrave anything you want on the inside. It could be the kids initials or birthday, basically anything you want.

Get this simple yet iconic ring at Tiffany & Co. Ring. .

Moving onto some ideas that aren’t on my wishlist but, are still nice to get.

A simple little painting from the kids would be a great gift for the grandmas in their lives. Even if it’s just a hand print it will be cherished.

One can always appreciate a beautiful bouquet of flowers. A GOOD breakfast in bed. A nice dinner with the family. These last one not one penny needs to be spent and they are letting mom sleep in, and when I say sleep in , I mean take the kids out of the house. I don’t know about other moms but, I know even if I want to sleep in I’m always listening on what’s going on in the living room. So, take the kids out of the house. Maybe do the dishes. Put in a load of laundry and put it away. These little things would mean the world to a mom. Am I right, mamas?

Well, I hope all you mamas have a great Mother’s Day!

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Happy Easter!

Hello Beautifuls! Easter is this Sunday, and making my baby boy his Easter basket is so much fun to make. Honestly, I may go a little bit over board but, oh well it is what it is. I am that extra. Not only do I go overboard but , so do my parents. They go overboard for everything, now you know where I get it from. Haha.

I’ll be showing you what I got my little squishy for Easter. As well, as what my parents got him.

He already has a personalized Easter basket. So, for his basket I got him a personalized 8 in. egg. Inside I put some goodies, I got him and my friends daughter custom matching shirts for our vacation this summer to Okinawa. Followed by a truck and a Reese’s bunny. Besides, the big egg, I’ll be putting some eggs filled with gummy jelly beans, some chocolates, two big bubble bath bombs, and $5 in one dollar bills. We will also be doing our own little Easter egg hunt.

Moving onto what my parents got him. So, first off the stuff can’t even fit in his other baskets, that’s how much stuff they send him. They kept it Disney Cars theme, his favorite. They sent him a bunch of the mini racers, a racetrack, Cars eggs, Cars shirt, cool light up lightening McQueen sneakers, and finally some candy. I told y’all they go big.

I also send a little Easter box to my bestie & her daughter. I got them both personalized eggs. In my friends egg I put a bunch in KitKats, some press on nails, and glittery earrings that match the hair bow I put in her daughters egg. For my sweet Perri I sent her some cute sandals and inside her egg was some KitKats, her matching bow, and custom shirt.

Do y’all go big or small for Easter? As y’all can see we go big. Haha

I hope you all have a blessed Easter!

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Goals Update.

Hello Beautifuls! Hope y’all are having a great New Year so far and are crushing y’alls goals! This girl right here is on a roll! Some goals have been achieved, some are in progress, and some are going to start on fresh start February. Haha. If you go back to my last post, you’ll see all of the goals I’ve set up for myself this year.

The first goal that I’m absolutely proud of is the start of potty training my sweet baby boy… well, I guess he’s not a baby anymore. Queue the sad violin and ugly crying. Today, marked a whole week of potty training! He’s is doing so good, we have way more successful trips to the potty and very little accidents, only two a day to be exact. I had a few tricks to help this go as smoothly as possible. I made him a potty chart and I help him draw a star for every good potty break, I bribed him with candy stickers, gave him a lot of juice, and finally I would let him watch his favorite movie or cartoons. Let me tell y’all it’s has been going ALOT better than I thought it would’ve been. Even though, it’s all going smooth, it has to be the most exhausting thing I’ve ever done. We aren’t fully trained yet but, so far so good and that makes me one happy and proud mommy.

The next goal that I have started and I’m pretty obsessed with is my cleaning schedule and meal planner. This is a new goal and it’s all thanks to my bestie Sarah and the new series on Netflix tidying up with Marie Kondo. Now, I didn’t go quite drastic on my cleaning like on the show but, it sure did put a pep in my step to get my life together. I did get rid a lot of our clothes and got rid of things I no longer used or wanted and to my surprise my hubby was on board with this new way of living. The schedule has really been a life changer, I always felt like I was cleaning and nothing seemed to stay cleaned and it really discouraged me and just pissed me off. But, now it’s so much easier to keep up with everything and not feel overwhelmed. I highly recommend doing one if you’re feeling helpless.

The third to last goal I made was to read more books. To be completely honest, I’m not a big reader, I just want to lead my toddler by example to read more books. He already likes for me to read to him but, I want him to love it and hopefully he will be able to read himself soon. Also, I want to work on myself and not just Netflix and chill all the time.

My last goal is on the materialistic side. Thanks to my adorable baby brothers, who aren’t such babies anymore, they gave me the LV Confidental bracelet. I’m obsessed, it’s so simple but, yet so pretty.

So that’s all of the goals that I’ve achieved so far and it’s only January. I told myself that this is the year I accomplish all the goals I’ve set out for myself and so far I’m kicking this years butt.

Also, don’t get discouraged if you haven’t met the goals just yet, something is always going to try and get in your way. Just start them whenever, don’t wait til next year to start something. You can start next month, week or even the next day. It is up to you to take control of your life and make the changes you want.

What are some of the goals you set for this year?

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Transitioning My Toddler to His Big Boy Bed.

Hello beautifuls! I hope y’all are doing amazing this week. I’m doing amazing and super excited for my birthday coming up in a couple days, but I’m also bugging out that I’m turning 25, in 5 more years I’ll be 30! WOW! But, let’s move on to another little person who keeps growing and breaking my heart, my squishy, my toddler Jason. We recently transitioned him from his crib, since he would escape from every morning. This was a sign that he was ready for a big boy bed. A huge thanks to grandma and grandpa for buying him his toddler bed, y’all are the best.

I had so much fun making his room a big boy room. He really didn’t have a lot of decor for his nursery since we moved to Japan. So, I went into diy mode and made some of his room decor. Thanks to the yen store here in Japan I was able to make his decor for cheap. It was easy to pick what his room was going to be since he is obsessed with cars and loves the movies from Disney Cars. I first started with these box displays, I painted them to look like roads, I have been collecting mini cars and I thought it would be a perfect way to display them in his room. I think they are the cutest things ever!

The next thing I made was a sign with his name on it. Now, this took a while to make, but it turned out sooo awesome! This took three 8×11 canvas boards, a printer to print out the letters, mod podge, and a lot of patience. I was able to find free fonts to create the font of the movie Cars. I then started to trace out every square to make a race car flag. I painted the square black and white, once it was dry I mod podged the letters onto the canvas. This helps it lay the letters flat and seem like they are painted on. To make the 95’s that are on each side of his name sign, I used smaller canvas and painted them red, printed the number 95 and mod podged it on the canvases. I felt like this really brought the name sign together.

I was able to find these hooks at the yen store and painted it red, I thought it would be great to hang his backpack and jackets. This was the one thing that wasn’t as time consuming. But, it looks great.

I found the carpet at a store called nafco, it’s so soft and fluffy, I have the exact same one in my beauty room in pink. They are high quality carpets and were super affordable, can y’all believe they were only $40! I had to snatch them up. His little table I bought on amazon for $35 and the little bar stools I bought at daiso for $4 each. The bed set I bought from target on sale. And lastly the wall art I got on Etsy, it was $3 for the digital copy of the cars. I then printed them out on photo paper.

Jason loves his new bed and room. I think it turned out amazing! What do y’all think?

Favorite TV Shows.

Hello my Beautifuls! I hope you all are doing fantastic! We are half way done with the week! Yasss! Well, for me my work week just started. Have I mentioned I absolutely love my job. If I didn’t, know you now. The only reason I look forward to the actual weekend is to spend time with my handsome hubby and to get a little break from changing a few diapers.

Having such a long weekend and being on a break from school means I have some extra time to watch my favorite shows, obviously when I’m not watching Moana or Coco for the thousandth time. But, when my little squishy goes to down a for a nap I have an hour to two hours of having the tv to myself. It’s awesome. I’ve obviously watched gossip girl about a million times, but I mean it’s gossip girl! Who can get tired of seeing Blair and Chucks become relationship goals. Since I have watching gossip girl so many times I thought it was time to branch out and find new shows. My guilty pleasure are reality shows, this being said my all time favs are Housewives of Beverly Hills and Keeping up with the Kardashian’s. I can get sucked into these shows so fast it’s crazy.

Besides reality shows, I have a deep love for crime shows such as criminal minds and CSI: Miami. At this moment, my husband and I are binge watching NCIS in Netflix. It’s about the only show we both like and can watch together. Unlike criminal minds and CSI, NCIS solves crimes within the navy and marine corps. It is insane, this show has me really roped in. If y’all are into crime shows. I highly recommend this show.

And lastly my recent favorite show called American Housewife. Y’all this is the most funniest and realistic view into being mother. If y’all want a good laugh and are tired of seeing all these perfect mommy’s, this is the show for you. It is okay to be an okay mom sometimes. We have bad days. We can’t always be perfect and have the perfect life. I’m so happy that they have a show that presents a family that is normal and is proud of not being a stick figure mom who looks good in white jeans. (She makes fun of moms that wear white jeans in the show.) I highly recommend this show as well. You can watch all the episodes on Hulu.

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Mother’s Shouldn’t Be Allowed To Get Sick!

Hello beautifuls! It’s been a while since I’ve posted on here. It has been a rough couple weeks for me and Jason. For the past couple weeks we have been sick, Jason with an ear infection and I with the most annoying and longest cold ever! Mom’s should not be allowed to get sick! Mom’s take forever to get better due to the fact that we don’t stop. We can’t just sleep in and stay in bed all day. I’m lucky enough to have a toddler that likes to sleep in until 9am, sometimes even later. Being sick wouldn’t have sucked as much if I didn’t have to take care of Jason, go to work, and do school work. I’m extremely lucky that my job was so understanding about me missing some days due to us being sick. I absolutely love my job and everyone I work with. As for school, I will most likely be taking next semester off due to it getting on my nerves. I don’t like online classes at all. My procrastination has gotten the best of me once again. But, I have been able todo my assignments and get good grades. Just a few more weeks left. Thank God! Hopefully this will be a better week and stay tuned for my next post I will have some very special guests! Yay! Well, I hope y’all have a great week!

For all my mommy’s out there, what remedies do y’all take to feel better faster? What do y’all do to make your little one feel better? Let me know!

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